MemberA married friend posted a photo today and it really helped me relax. I wanted to share with you all but it wont let me upload. Anyways it said:
Marriage is not a race. Donr rush to the alter. Build friendship, trust and love.
I will read this every day
xx
MemberLovely thought
Membertravelbee: I love this! Definitely a great thing to remember. It reminds me of something someone once told me when I asked for advice on how to avoid going crazy while waiting. I’ll admit, I read what she told me often, it helps me relax and feel better during those tough days.
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EDIT: silly post won’t let me copy/paste. Will have to add in later!
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Memberauthentic: yes please post when you can I would love to hear it.
MemberI love, love, love this!! My SO currently lives two states away (been a month now) and I’ve realized my fretting over waiting is just taking up precious time together. Since I’ve “let it go” I feel our relationship has been the best ever!! i love him with or without a piece of paper and we know its inevitable but we no longer feel rushed.
Thanks for the share!!
Membertravelbee: I’m posting from my phone, not sure why my last post showed up wonky. I’m not sure why, but reading this really calms me at times. Reminds me what’s important in the end, you know? I’ll try to copy and paste again:
“Focus more on the relationship and less on the status of it.
Are you happy? Are you in love? Do you have a good time? Do you enjoy his company? Is he your best friend? Do you like doing things together? Do you tell him how much you appreciate him? Does he tell you?
Focus on the little things that are on the path to the wedding destination. Give yourself a date of the latest you’d be willing to wait without a proposal. Whatever that date is – Let’s say January 2nd 2015, just as an example……refuse to allow yourself to think about NOT being married until that day.
If that day rolls around and he hasn’t proposed, THEN sit him down and have a talk and make your decision if you’re willing to wait further.
Whatever your date you choose – give yourself permission to not think about it, talk about it or bring it up until then. Put the focus back onto the relationship and off of the one question you want to hear.
Relax. Enjoy. And Laugh.
It will happen – when he’s ready – not when you are.”
Just thought I’d share in case you or other bees may find it helpful too! 🙂
authentic.
MemberThis is very true. Thanks for sharing.
Memberauthentic: thats amazing i love it, it really helps. I think we should read this post anytime we all get frustrated with our SO. As much as i would want it sooner, my date is april 2015 at the latest and he knows this. So ill have to remember to just let it go and enjoy our time until then and im sure it will happen before
We are so happy and we never fight the only time we do is cause i get so crappy and emotional over why he hasnt asked and he just sits and listens. Hardly a fight haha more of a temper tantrum
In light of this i might take a break from the site cause sometimes reading other peoples situations, although they help and i can give insight, those situations also fuel my fire up again and i compare. Maybe once a week instead of daily
