(Closed) Something wrong with me?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
2749 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@kendra389:  I do not think there is a single thing wrong with you. You are being incredibly responsible with your time and money. Sit down with your boyfriend and calmly tell him what you’ve typed out here about your responsibilities and misgivings about going. Don’t let it turn into a fight, and don’t just shut down. 

 

Would you be open to a compromise of sorts? How about planning for a winter cruise in between semesters or something over spring break? You can tell your family ahead of time that you’re saving for it, and that way they’ll also be able to contribute to your ticket as well as his parents. Plus that way, his parents can dial back their gifts to just part of the ticket cost and not out-do your parents. I feel like it’s great to be responsible, but you should allow yourself nice things and experiences every once in a while. 

Post # 5
Member
2749 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@kendra389:  Haha! I’ve definitely had those kinds of phone calls before in a previous LDR. I think you should give yourself the night off from worrying about it and just wait til tomorrow. What’s one day, right? That way, too, emotions aren’t still close to the surface, which is always helpful. Get some rest and let him have time to realize that it’s not cool to be rude to you like that.

Post # 6
Member
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you’re being very reasonable and responsible.  If he was paying for the vacations for him and you by himself that would be one thing, but the fact he just freeloads off his parents for you guys would not be okay with me.

I think he should be more considerate of your feelings. Just have a calm chat about how everything makes you feel and how you’d like to proceed.  At the end of the day, I think he means well and just wants to share a nice vacation with you. 

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