- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
OP, I just want to say a couple of things. I grew up with my father behaving exactly the same. He literally sounds just like my dad. First off, I want you to think really hard. If you intend to marry this man, you will likely have children together, could you stand for him treating your children like this? Also, if you have children together, the likelihood is that your son would grow up to be just like him, and your daughter would grow up to marry someone like him. YES, many times it doesn’t happen, but many times it does, because the relationships we watch our parents have models for us what we think normal relationships should be. So what would you tell your hypothetical daughter if she were in this relationship? Would you say, oh he will change, just let him keep abusing you? Or would you pack her ass up and move her back in with you?
He will not change, he will not get better, it will only get worse. And the scars it will leave on you and your (future) children will NEVER go away. EVER!!! To this day I am the first person who would jump into the middle of any man hurting a woman. I am so thankful I was smart enough to finally get to the point where I refused to let my dad treat myself, mother or siblings that way. I even chased him out of the house with a knife once for picking up a highchair and getting ready to swing at my mom, who was holding my 3 year old brother at the time. These things I will NEVER forget. DO NOT allow yourself to be a victim, you are the one who writes your own future.
Talk to your parents, your friends anyone who will listen. If they love you they will help you get out.