- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Hi Bees! I need some advice on how to handle this before I break down and smack her. Kind of long.
My cousin who is basically my little sister turned 19 a week ago lets call her B. Two weeks before that she tells me she thinks she is pregnant. How? because her BF never uses condoms ,apparently in all the years that I’ve known her she is allergic to latex,and (excuse me for the TMI) comes inside her all the time.”I kind of wanted this to happen”<—- her words EH?!?!?! She was living with her sister when she found out she really is pregnant her SIL also happened to come into the bathroom after she peed on the stick and found it. The SIL ran and told B’s sister. Well B’s sister and husband freaked out and kicked her out. So she moved in with her BF of two months. Now she is trying to drop out of highschool to do “homeschool” quit her job because she has no car and she has no phone (she uses her BFs brothers cell, he lives in the same complex as them). She hasn’t told the rest of the family that she is pregnant yet. Considering I didnt get a chance to graduate highschool, thanks to my parents, it really hurt that she was just giving up her senior year because she is pregnant. I asked her why cant you finish? B: “because iont have a car” Me: ok transfer to the school 10 minutes away from your BF’s house B: “I dont want to. Id have to give them proof that I live there with a bill and I dont have a way to get there” Me: You’re considered an adult and all you need is a random bill of your BFs and you can ride the bus. B: “I dont want to ride the bus either” Me:…WHAT ok have you looked into this “homeschooling”? B: “No I dont have a laptop.” Me: Then how will you do the work? She doesn’t say much after that. Her mom was supposed to take her yesterday to help her drop out but never showed up. I told her I dont care if you’re pregnant Im not letting you drop out Ill take you to the school and talk to the principal and counsler to see if we can get you enrolled in the other school. She said whatever. She had work yesterday and “forgot” to tell her BF so he could get her a ride. That was her second job that she just got hired onto and she just didnt show up. So she got fired. Her excuse was ” I couldnt get a ride” her BF was really upset with her and so was I because I told her I would give her a ride on my lunch break just let me know when to come get you. Never said a word. Her BF finally got some money but instead of buying groceries he buys cush ( Some kind of fake weed?) I tell her he cant blow money on that crap he needs to save and start thinking of the baby.
Im really worried about her because she thinks she can just up and quit everything and raise a baby. Im trying to help her as much as I can but its hard when she gets all oooh nobody in this family cares about me, I dont care if they are mad, And I dont need their help. She is the most dramatic person I know but I love the shit out of her and would do anything for her. She hasnt gone to the doctor or taking vitamins. Im being really supportive but she doesnt use her brain sometimes :/ Im driving 30 minutes away to pick her up and take her places because I guess her mom wont do it and help her get a job its all frustrating.