(Closed) Sometimes I feel like no one cares about our engagement or wedding!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Do you feel like no one cares about your engagement or wedding?
    Yes, no one cares and it makes me upset! : (30 votes)
    24 %
    Yes, no one cares but it doesn't bother me! : (46 votes)
    37 %
    No, everyone is super excited for us! : (29 votes)
    23 %
    Other! : (19 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 32
    Member
    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Well, by me, newspaper engagement announcements and engagement parties aren’t that common, so I certainly would not have expected anyone to do anything for me, like send in an announcement or throw a party.

    We had a 14 month engagement and people didn’t really get excited until a couple of months out.  Fine by me!  I liked the quiet, quite honestly 🙂

    Post # 32
    Member
    1 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    Not one person cared about my wedding either. I ended up giving them all the finger by doing a private, just us wedding. I didn’t get a bridal shower, bachelorette party or honeymoon. 

    Post # 33
    Member
    5 posts
    Newbee

    I’m right there with you… Scheduled to try on dresses 2/2/19 & all friends were informed weeks ago. And today my best friend of 20 years tells me she booked a gig for her band that day & cant go. Mind you… the appointment is 4:30 pm…  And I wanted to do destination wedding and she was one of maybe 5 people I care about being there… her and our other friend since high school… and since both of them pitched a fit & basically said they wont go because they don’t want to spend the money, I changed from caribbean wedding to Miami because it’s cheaper for them.  So my wedding which I wanted to be about me & my soon to be husband is now about everyone else.  Aka people who dont give a … well you know 😞  

    Post # 34
    Member
    712 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I get it I have been with my fiancé for 15 years we’re getting married this spring. When we got engaged no one seemed to care so it doesn’t shock me that no one interested in the wedding. I get a lot of it’s about time and other rude comments. I have had to do countless stuff for others peoples weddings. My mom is not interested my sister been difficult and my mother in law just talks about my sister in law and her husband everytime I do anything with her. I have gotten more general excitement from random strangers people at the bank etc. It sucks i think that’s why I have turned to this forum because I don’t have anyone to really talk about this kind of stuff in my life. In the end it doesn’t matter but it does kind of put a damper on everything. I. Finding most people are very selfish and only care about themselves they expect you to be at everything for them and not the other way around. 

    Post # 35
    Member
    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    Similar situation as others here – engaged at 29 after dating for 11 years. People gave their polite congrats, but I was not at all surprised at the lack of excitement. As others have mentioned, WeddingBee has been a helpful place for me to foster my interest and anticipation and not feel dumb for wanting to enjoy having a wedding, even though it feels past due.

    And I do have to give credit to my mom, who is fiercely supportive of me and is happy to talk about wedding planning because she wants me to enjoy it. So I don’t have to feel embarassed around her either.

    Post # 36
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    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2019 - Forest Grove, OR

    This is my experience. We got engaged June 2018 and everyone seemed happy but not really interested, which was fine with me. As soon as we hit the new year, EVERYONE has been so excited and asking tons of questions/trying to help plan. It was kind of strange. 

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