(Closed) Sometimes I feel wedding clueless!

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had this point in time where we hadn’t committed ourselves to any one wedding item, and so my ideas were all over the place. I didn’t know if I wanted rustic or modern, and I was constantly seeing weddings that I loved, but trying to combine them into one monster wedding. 

And then, we found a venue we really liked. And I could kind of imagine a certain wedding there, which eliminated a lot of the riff raff. And then the dress came along, and all of the sudden it all fits. I have enough narrowed down that I know what general feel I’m looking for, and I’m not sad about the styles that just don’t have a place in our wedding. 

I really felt like I’d be locking off options when we started committing to wedding details, but I actually am so relieved and enjoying planning much more. 

Post # 5
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2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

nurselindsey – you have read my mind.  This is my problem always, except I never really though about any details…ever. There were about 3 months from when we got engaged to….now-ish that I would ask (beg, cry etc) FI if we could “just get eloped” already.  He knows that deep down, it just isn’t me, so he always says no. 

I see you have a Jan. 2011 wedding also; I am hoping that once we get a bit closer, the details will start falling into place? Do you have a venue or caterer yet? 

Post # 6
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339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh, I think this is so normal!  I definitely had tons of ideas swirling in my head then I’d look at blogs and things and get different ideas, then I would go back on my first ideas, then see a new idea…this went on and on for a good 6 or so months for me.  Wedding planning can be overwhelming, but that’s what we’re all here for!  In the end, with all my ideas and planning, I came back around to my original ideas, only with a few twists on them. So I would suggest staying true to the ideas that first got you excited about your wedding and expand on those.  Make sure you’re not losing your joy because this should be a fun experience for you. 

You haven’t lost your creativity, you’re just overwhelmed right now.  Try to simplify things (narrow in on your one vision for your day) and I think you’ll start feeling better about your planning!

Post # 8
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2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

jennybird–thanks for that, definitely makes me feel better.

nurselindsey–well not quite yet.  i have the venue i want to book with and the caterer i want to use, unfortunately the venue has a “perfered” list so it is getting a bit hairy, because our caterer isnt on it (yet)…

ideally i’ll have the place and food booked soon.  so that said, i feel like i cant do any other detail planning, because it would be a bit of a waste of time. 

Thats awesome that your family is helping out with photos and desert!  What colors are you thinking of using?

Hopefully I’ll have some good news updates soon, as in the next week or so!

 

Post # 10
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2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Oh thanks!

I like the winter wonderland theme — Right now, I am leaning towards a deep red (like burgdany or something) for the bridesmaids dress with maybe accent colors of gold and cream.

Post # 11
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1392 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery

I had so many dreams of what my wedding would be like…then reality hit!  I think all these wedding shows and blogs put too many high expectations and when it comes time to write the checks you realize it’s not so easy to just throw money everywhich way.  My dream wedding would cost way too much money and is way unrealistic.  So I am being resourceful and getting creative and doing my best to find something that will be beautiful and will work for me with the time I have

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