(Closed) Sometimes i get frustrated at things..I m a stay at home mother..

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have been where you are and can say that you just need to make some time for yourself. Plan time out of the house when hubby can take care of the kids. Get your nails done take a class or just meet with your friends regularly. You are taking care of everyone but yourself, eventually you run out of gas.

It really is unhealthy to wonder about old boyfriends. It will only make you feel further from your husband.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You frame the question as if it’s an all-or-nothing issue, but does it have to be? You sound bored and isolated and a bit depressed and I imagine that just having something other than taking care of the kids 24/7 to look forward to would help a bunch. How about one of the following possibilities:

– Find a nanny/babysitter to watch the kids one afternoon every week. Take some time for yourself: go shopping, read a book, catch up with a friend, take an art class, volunteer at an animal shelter, work out–whatever makes you happiest and most fulfilled.

– Go back to work–but part time. Again, a nanny might be less expensive than day care. The goal here would just be to get out of the house, interact with other adults, meet new people, and break even financially. You don’t have to justify spending 20 hrs/week away from your kids by making tons of money. If it means that you’re happier and the quality of the time you do spend with your family rises, there’s nothing selfish about this!

– Organize something with one or more of the other moms in your circle so that you watch an extra kid or two one day a week and they reciprocate. Kind of like option 1, but free.

– Take up a hobby or start a major project of some kind. This could even involve your kids–for example, you could teach yourself a foreign language and teach them at the same time. 

I’m sure lots of more experienced bees will have tons of other suggestions–these are just my thoughts. Good luck and hang in there!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree with getting a sitter at least one day a week to have “you” time, I think that would really help. It sounds like you need to have a sit down with your husband and explain your feelings like you are to us. It’s not healthy if you are stressed out everyday. You could also take a class maybe an evening a week, or volunteer somewhere. Maybe one Friday night a week you can go out with the girls and your Darling Husband can watch the kids, and then one Friday a month he can do the same with his friends…to me it sounds like there is a lot that needs to be laid out on the table and talked about in a serious way, if your Darling Husband loves you he should understand and want to make you feel better…

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@ddsfam:  Have you thought about getting a different style job. Perhaps becoming a Pampered Chef, tupperware, or Lia Sophia consultant? 

This would allow for you to work a little bit and feel like you’re accomplishing something, it will get you out of the house (make Darling Husband have to handle the kids more), give you time for yourself, possibly make some new friends, and give you a little bit of extra money 🙂

Post # 9
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Figure out what you would want to do when you go back to work and start volunteering with an organization that can give you resume skills for when you are ready.

 

Post # 10
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1348 posts
Bumble bee

You can probably find a nanny that’s cheaper than daycare. Especially once both boys are in preschool, if you find someone to work about 25-30 hrs a week. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

The nanny sounds like a good idea to me.I live in Sacramento and daycare is expensive here too.Take up knitting,sewing,volunteer,etc.Many women would love to be home with their kids.Ask hubby to help out more and enjoy your babies.They grow up so fast!

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