(Closed) Sometimes I get sad because I did everything the wrong way….:(

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1962 posts
Buzzing bee

Are you considering becoming a teacher?  I say you need to evaluate what YOU want out of your life for YOURSELF and your children.  Start living that way and everything else will catch up.  Best of luck!

Post # 4
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t regret much because I realize that I wouldn’t be where I’m at if they didn’t happen and I think it’s the same for you. So while it sounds like you’ve had a rough time with things you wouldn’t be with the man you are now or be the person you are.

Also, as far as having 3 different fathers for your children, sure it doesn’t sound ideal but I bet you wouldn’t change any of them and they wouldn’t be here if you’re life had gone exactly the way you planned.

It’s great that you’re happy with where you are now though!

Post # 5
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010


I’m really sorry that you feel that way, and can understand where you’re coming from.  I totally felt like that a couple of years ago, and still occasionally do now.  I think that it’s all in how you think about the “right” and “proper” way of doing things.  I basically took a long hard look at my life, relationships, and direction and decided you know what?  Yeah this isn’t where I wanted to be when I was in college, but I can’t live in the past.  I made mistakes and some were good ones and some bad.  But they made me into the person that I am today.  It took me a long time to come to that realization and then much longer to be okay with that.

In my opinion, which isn’t much, right and wrong are relative.  You are you and that’s that.  You totally deserve your dream, but sometimes our dreams change as we change.

All of your decisions brought you to the place you’re in today; with a wonderful person and with beautiful children – in my opinion that’s a really awesome place to be 🙂

I hope that things continue to look up for you!  Best of luck!

Post # 7
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

You can do it – No one is perfect, and there is no “right” way to do anything.  All of the decisions you have made in your life so far have brought you three little blessings, and to the man of your dreams.  You have so much strength and wisdom, probably well beyond your years.   I am sure you have a lot to offer to the world that you don’t even realize yet. 

Take some time for yourself and take those classes – you CAN do it.  Think about all you’ve been through so far. I believe in you – and I am sure you have an army at home that believes in you too!

Post # 8
3587 posts
Sugar bee

A few classes are nothing! You can do it and start being a teacher by the time the economy gets better and there are more jobs available!

Everything can change in no time and you can MAKE the changes!

I’m also waiting for the big question (YAH!)and if you want, you can come over to the Waiting board. It’s a very supportive place!

Post # 9
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Audz, get the cert.  I waited several years to go to college because I was making a lot of money as an office manager… but it took someone to say, “You can do this” for me to quit and start school to become a doctor.  I don’t regret it.  If you only have a few courses – absolutely do it.  It’s better than all of mine. 🙂

Post # 11
1765 posts
Buzzing bee


Get your education and do it!!! There are soooo many non-traditional (age) students!!! You will NOT be the only one-I guarantee it!!! You have sooo much of life experience, you will do well. 🙂  ( I went back to college when my kids were in grade school, and my daughter is finishing college, and has a 3 year old, and a 3 month old.)

Post # 12
1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have two children from 2 men (one is with FI). When I am explaining our situation to people all I say is “I haven’t done it the conventional way, but we are happy, and it works for us.”

Just because it isn’t the way most people go doesn’t mean it’s worse or wrong. You are making the best life for you and your children. There is nothing to be ashamed of or disapointed in.

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