- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
Bees – I don’t know if any of you girls feel this way, but you feel like you have so little free time in your life that you just have limited time for people in your life? I’m basically gone roughly 11 hours a day from hoome. My commute is a total of 2-2.5 hours every day. When I get home, I don’t always relax, I have things to do and chores to do. So I basically have 2 days (Saturday and Sunday) a week to well, breathe and relax, and I get frustrated when I feel like I have spend too much of those precious days doing stuff or hanging out with the same people. For example, this past weekend, I had my nephew with me from Saturday afternoon to late Sunday morning. He’s a really good kid, but I got tired from it. Frankly, I’m not kid friendly. Then my sister was hoping we can hang out again this coming weekend, but I don’t want to, because I feel like I have spent enough time with him and can do without seeing him again this weekend. I think she understands that I have a crazy busy weekend (DH’s birthday and am hosting a Super Bowl party), but said it a few times that she wish they can see me. Then I tried to make a compromise and said maybe we can meet up for a brunch in between us on Sunday. She already had brunch plans and suggested that I just take my nephew to brunch alone. I didn’t want to do that, because again, I technically wanted to spend most of Sunday afternoon, getting ready for Super Bowl, not get my nephew, take him to brunch and wait around until my sister can get him again. And with DH’s bday, I was hoping that it would be just limited to Saturday night, dinner and then drinks with friends. However, his brother planned a surprise dinner and drinking at bars for him on Friday, telling me after the fact. I feel like any wife would be happy about that, but I’m again frustrated, because I was planning to run a lot of errands on Friday, which have to get done before Sunday, so I’m pushing them off to Saturday afternoon and canceling my doctor appointments on Saturday. DH is also rounding up his friends for more drinking on Saturday night, because he doesn’t know about the Friday night plans, and I foresee it being a late night on Saturday. I feel like any wife would be more than happy to spend lots of time, celebrating their husband’s bday, but I’m not. I really do feel like a selfish and bad wife. However, I just can’t help it.