Post # 1
Some of you may remember a while back I posted about my mother’s complete lack of etiquette in inviting guests to my bridal shower who were not coming to the wedding. Here’s a link to the thread in case you need to get up to speed:
Anyways, so my mother is tech-saavy and invited people via Facebook (which I wish she had never found in the first place) and some with paper invites. So now she is harassing people on their wall, wanting to know if they are coming! Specifically one poor person, who I was friends with as a CHILD and haven’t spoken to in over 10 years, who I am SURE wasn’t planning on coming to the shower. I just wish my mom had an “off” button sometimes – she doesn’t think before she does anything! This poor person likely feels so awkward. I asked my mom to stop doing it, but she hasn’t responded to me.
Ugh, I guess this is just a vent. How do I get her to LISTEN to me? This has been a chronic issue with us for most of my life. She apologizes profusely AFTER the fact, but then goes ahead and does it again.
Post # 3
Ugh that really stinks, I’m sorry she’s causing you so much stress! If she refuses to listen to you and continues bothering people on FB, I’d maybe just message the people she’s harassing and apologize on her behalf. Just explain that she gets a little carried away, or something of that effect, and that their presence at the wedding is more than enough. Hang in there!
Post # 4
That sucks, I don’t really have any advice for you. But I can send you a *HUG*.
Post # 5
totally agree with blueshoes.
Post # 6
I would contact the girl your momma is giving a hard time and apologize for mom’s behavior as well as let her know you completely understand of she can’t make it.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone. I think I will contact her so she doesn’t feel particularly awkward. Once again I will tell my mom to back off…but I doubt she will change her ways. Oh well, at least we are planning the wedding ourselves and hence, dealing with the invitations to the actual event!
Post # 8
We are planning and paying ourselves, is your mom paying for it? At least she is involved, my mother is not involved not one little bit!
Post # 9
I agree I think I’d shot the girl an email on FB and let her know that your mom is very excited about the shower and that you understand if she can’t make it.
You might run into the same thing when the wedding rolls around. You just need to remind your mom that it is very tacky to invite via Facebook. You may have to tell her that she is allowed to invite xxx number of people and any beyond that you need to know so that you can make sure there is room and $$ to pay for them. This will hopefully make her be a little more thoughtful on who she invites.