(Closed) Sometimes I wish I was an asshole…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I so get off on thinking about things that I would never do. Not necessarily wedding related, but the inner bad girl in me sometimes tries to shove her way out.

I think it helps us to work out those feelings or rage, anger, resentment etc that we know we can never act on.

 

 

Post # 4
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I learned thought the wedding planning process that I don’t care what other people want if it doesn’t jive with what I want.  May sound childish, but life would be miserable if I pleased everyone else but myself.

Perhaps not having them in ANY would be a little much, but I don’t see any reason why they should be in more than one when you take pics with his side of the family…unless they’re in the wedding party…that would be weird…

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If my mind and actions where the same, I would a complete nightmare.

It’s the sheer good in me that says “I’m better than this”…. usually wins every time.

Post # 6
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

LOL @juiles1949 – too funny.  Totally had the angel and devil pic going on 🙂

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Frown  Until your post I hadn’t even thought about my dad’s g/f’s face in my pics.

edited cause her daughter trolls the net …sigh

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

They don’t have any pro pics back after 2 1/2 years? That sucks. I guess even if you did pose with your Fiance for photos, you wouldn’t have any of them to see/use anyway.

But yeah, I like going the “kill them with kindness” route. Include her in photos, talk about how great it is to have “the whole family” together and how important it is that every. single. person. is included. Hopefully it will make her realize that you should have been included in their photos.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Haha i know the feeling – my father owns a custom framing store and my husbands parents gave my dad a few pictures to frame when we were over there on the 4th of July. Well i went in to his store a few days ago to drop one of my wedding pictures off (that my mother generously had blown up and put on canvas) to be framed. My dad was like ‘take a look at these’ and low and behold there is a HUGE – im talking GIGANTIC – family picture of my husbands family with every single person except for me 🙁 i’m not going to lie i was really sad. This said picture was taken at his sisters wedding last August. I completely understand why i was not in the picture, we werent married yet, but we were engaged and at the time i had no problem not being in the pictures – but fast forward to now – we have been married just over 5 months and they choose to frame and hang a family picture in their house that doesnt have me in it! sounds really selfish when put like that – but it really did hurt my feelings….not that i have anyway of being an asshole to them – but if i could think of a way – i would contemplate it hard. Me coming off as an asshole never works to well. people will laugh. haha – i just dont have it in me.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

lol. I’d like to kick my step-sis in the shin and tell her to shut up, stop all the talking behind my back, get a job, and stop mooching off of everyone – basically grow-up. Instead, I just ignore it. Luckily, she didnt come to the wedding because it was a destination. So, I didn’t have to deal with her on that day and won’t have to see her in the pictures.

When I first read your post’s title I thought of Mr. Anderson from the WWE who’s catch phrase is  . . . because I’m an A$$hole. lol. Darling Husband loves his wrestling. It’s amazing the things I have learned.

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I just have to say…. Best Post Title EVER!

I’m frequently left out of events that my very own sister plans. But yet, I keep inviting her to mine. I would really like to tell her to stick where the sun doesn’t shine. It’s a little 6th grade but dude, I fell left out! Plus it makes me think that she doesn’t like my Fiance, which stings a bit more.

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am afraid that this is going to happen at FSIL’s wedding. She is getting married in the Fall and I have a feeling that I am going to be forgotten when it comes time to take pictures. I wish I could do the same thing when I make the list next year but I don’t have the balls to leave her out.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@totheislnds: Were there other photos with you in them? If at this point they had a choice between including you or not including you, yeah, that’s a jerk thing to do. But, if they didn’t include you in photos at all back at the wedding when you were just engaged, there’s nothing they can do about it now, right? It just sucks they didn’t include you in the first place.

I think the best way to handle this would be to take photos with everyone and another photo with just the immediate family or whatnot. Say, if a girlfriend/fiancee is present but you’re not sure they’ll last or they’re not quite yet considered family – take a photo with them and another without them. That way you can choose, right?

My husband’s brother and his wife got married three years before my husband and I did. We had just started dating a few months earlier, but we knew it was serious. I was not included in any of the family photos – duh, I wasn’t family. But now, it seems like it would have been nice for me to be in there.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@UpstateCait: Wow – I can’t believe they didn’t order a single photo. I would never be okay with not having any of my pro wedding pics.

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