Sometimes they're just so sweet.

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2018

come to think of it, i haven’t done something really significant to make my wife happy and excited. any suggestions?

 

Post # 32
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10587 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

wedlooksgood :  You can never go too far wrong sending flowers just to say “I love you”.  Beyond that, we need additional information.  What does she like?  Hobbies and interests?  The Hive can get pretty creative about this sort of thing.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - City, State

 

wedlooksgood :  It doesn’t have to be a big gesture to make someone feel special. I love peanut M&Ms, so my Fiance recently slipped a bag into my purse with a little note that said “I’m totally nuts about you, darling” taped to it. I found them unexpectedly on the train and almost cried it was such a sweet little gesture (literally). What about something as simple as leaving a note on the mirror or washing her car (if she has one)?

Post # 34
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Because of my childhood, and a fair chunk of my adulthood, I have some PTSD.  Dh understands the concept and can grasp it intellectually, but he doesn’t truly Get It.  And, I would not expect him to.

He was all excited several months ago when he got us a new doorbell.  It has like 12,000 ring tones and plenty of volume.  This makes him happy because you can hear it on any floor (we have 3).

My fellow PTSD sufferers probably get where this is going.

The first time I heard the damn thing, I nearly jumped out of my skin.  My heart was pounding, pulse racing, adrenaline flowing, typical flight/flight response.  He was just going through the various ringtones to find the one least offensive to me.  (Would you prefer to be thrown off the roof or the 13th floor?).

So we settled on classical music, with the volume turned down.

Unfortunately, as much as we love our city, we are plagued with frequent electricity outages.  What I didn’t know is that when there is a power failure, the stupid thing resets itself back to the default settings, ie loud and obnoxious.

It was only the UPS driver, but it might just as well have been a smarmy band of felons.  I freaked.  Not too badly.  But, it took awhile for my heart to stop fibrilating.  I was completely unprepared, thinking the bell was on classical quiet mode.

Dh quietly went on amazon and found one of the few doorbell systems that has a memory.  This way, when the power goes out, the tone and volume won’t change.

If we ever did the Love Language thing, I have no doubt that dh’s would be acts of service.  Or, as I prefer to phrase it:  catering to my every whim.

Some days, he is just such a keeper. 

 

Post # 37
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

hickoryhills :  

Yeah, Dh was a problem solver right from the start.  Not only did he not gripe about the hair from my five loveable German Shedders getting on his nice clothes.  The next time he came to pick me up, he brought a ratty old jacket and sweats to leave stashed at my house to ensure uninterrupted, carefree canine merry making.

This is a good time to be discussing this because I am about 70% annoyed with him right now.

Post # 38
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Newbee

Aww I love this thread and reading about everyone’s stories!  My SO is amazing in so many ways.  When we had first started dating, we were long distance–not too long, only about an hour.  But still too far to see each other more than on weekends.  I’m not even sure if we were exclusive at the time this happened.  I had texted him a photo I saw of a baby deer in a field of purple flowers with a caption “this is all I want in life” or something similar, just joking of course.  Our next date, I drove up to his apartment and went to put my things down in his room.  There was a stuffed deer and a vase of purple daisies waiting for me!  I teared up.  It was just so sweet.

He’s done a lot of major things as well.  When I was still living with my parents, my dad got very drunk and very angry one night.  I took my brothers to my grandma’s house to stay the night and I ended up staying at a friend’s house for a whole week until I felt comfortable enough to go back home.  He said he would drive down and get me, but it was pretty late at night and he had work in the morning.  I insisted that I was okay and safe at my friend’s house (which I was) and that he stay home.  But the next day when he got off work, he drove down just to spend the evening with me.  He brought board games to help distract me and took me out for dinner and drove home late even though he had work the next day.  This was maybe a month into us being exclusive and probably the moment I knew he was the one for me.  I love him so much.

Post # 39
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

It happened literally today… I came home from work and Fiance had done a lot of cleaning, had laundry on the go AND he made up a bunch of sandwiches for my lunches this week. Freaking love that guy. 

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

It’s nothing big, but after our horrible “vacation” last weekend, all I wanted this weekend was to essentially do nothing.

We only left the house once yesterday for her to take me to brunch (which was awesome) and a quick stop at the store for me to grab a couple things I wanted to pick up while we were out. The entire rest of the weekend we spent basically cuddled up in bed watching trashy TV, having drinks and just hanging out. And it was awesome. This was despite a few different friends hitting us up to go hang out over the weekend.

I absolutely love that she not only understands my occasional need to just check out of everything for a day or two, but fully embraces it!

Post # 41
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Busy bee

fourthnoel :  haha, how cute! They sell those at my kids school for lunches 😆

Post # 42
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Busy bee

My husband takes care of paying all the bills, car registration, and the finances etc. and doing the boring adult administration stuff. I am so thankful to him as it really is one of those mundane things I have no interest in. I also have struggled with anxiety and depression (all of my life) particularly in the last 12 months. He will make important phone calls and book appointments for me, as it causes me anxiety to do those things and he attends doctors appointments and things like that with me. He offers to do these things without complaining and I appreciate it so much ❤️

Post # 45
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

hickoryhills :  

Oh, it’s true love, alright.  When I found the information online about our quasi rescue girl, he was not on board, since we were getting a puppy a few months later that would bring us up to three.

He tried arguing with me.  But, my intuition told me she needed to be ours.  And Dh let me have my way, as always.

Once the decision was made, he started getting excited.  She was several states away.

When she finally got here, he was just floored.  She is such a beauty and such a nice temperament. Two years later he’s still scratching his head, trying to get understand why anyone would give her up.  He’s new.  I’ve been this for 30 years, I’m used to it.

And there was more good news, our seven year old adoptee checked out in amazingly good health, including hips and elbows.

I still give Dh a ration of it every now and then because our girl became a total Daddy’s Girl.  She shadows him every minute.  She tolerates me well enough.  I’m nice and have treats.  But, her one true love is daddy.

He has taken over pretty much of the husbandry.  Ok by me.  My job is to handle housebreaking and training.

He will never be able to live without a good Shepherd again.

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