(Closed) Somewhat confused about “our” finances!

posted 10 years ago in Money
Post # 3
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Well if you’re “in charge” of the money, just do it…

But seriously, can’t you just ask him, “why not?”.  I mean, even though you’re in charge, you should probably have frank discussions monthly about what the big purchases/payments are, how much is going into savings or coming out of it, etc.  Just so you’re both on the same page so there are fewer surprises.

Post # 4
10354 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

You guys need to be communicating better. Instead of a command: “Not now!”, he needs to communicate his reasoning. Does he think that money should go to another bill? Does he think you guys should earn interest on the money instead of immediately using it to pay bills?

That street goes both ways.

Post # 5
5656 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s a bit strange to me that he just handed over everything and wants you to handle it. But, if he wants you to manage the money you ghet to manage the money. Personally I would think it would be a lot better if you two handled money like that together. It’s one thing to let you budget and make payments on wedding stuff as you please, but another to make decisions on bonuses, large purchases and other important things like that.

Post # 6
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Definitely sounds like a communication issue that could be simply cleared up with an answer to “WHY not now?”… and NOT getting snippy w/ short answer =/

I handle all of our finances but still talk through everything with DH before sitting down and cutting the checks b/c he might need/want something that we haven’t talked about yet and things may need to be adjusted.

Your Fiance may want to do something else with that money and that’s fine… BUT it NEEDS TO BE COMMUNICATED.


The topic ‘Somewhat confused about “our” finances!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors