- 6 years ago
I was my friends Maid/Matron of Honor until yesterday. We are both military and we met about 8 months before she deployed. We clicked right from the start but then her deployment we grew apart. She never finds time to call or visit. I let it go and accepted Maid/Matron of Honor in Jan when I went wedding dress shopping with her and was telling her all the “To Do” things she completely overlooked. Basically I got Maid/Matron of Honor to be her secretary, but I know thats how she is so again I overlooked it and said yes. Well April I had foot surgery and was on bedrest for 2 full months, then 1 month after that I still was limited on driving, walking, etc. 3 different times over a 2 week span in May she was going to come hang out and show me her wedding plans but she “fell asleep” or “forgot” or short notice “wedding appointments” so needless to say never once did she visit me during my surgery. So the last 2 months I have been very angry inside at her but I know weddings are stressful times for the bride so again I overlooked most things. Until the last month or two. She stood me up countless times now, promised to audition for a play (we met with theatre) but said she was busy with school and wedding… that I understood, until she skipped auditions and I didnt get casted cuz the director doesnt like me or my SO yet she decided to be full stage manager/assistant director ( a more time consuming job then acting w/ me would have been). The only time I see her is if I go to her job for 5-10 mins to say hi. I went to her b-day party where she was too worried about getting drunk(er). She is a complete lush and when we first me I went out occasionally but over the last 1yr focusing on school I have stopped. Since I dont think we dont hang out. Well I got fed up this last week when she again stood me up (one time to many) and I told her we needed to talk ASAP. We were going to meet on Saturday after my date with my SO (which was cut a bit early) because our conversation was important to me. I still wanted to be her friend but I definitely didnt want to be Maid/Matron of Honor anymore. I didnt feel right since we have been practically strangers since January. She cancelled 3 hours before we were supposed to me but suggested sunday so I finally got petty and stood her up. Yesterday she sent me a message on facebook telling me I am not Maid/Matron of Honor anymore and barely friends. I deserve a non-selfish friends but she doesnt want to hear about any couples right now just her wedding. Its weird because I knew it was coming and I was going to resign but it pissed me off so much her making it seem like her idea all of a sudden and claiming I keep her from “being herself”. I don’t know if I want to try and remain friends or just call all ties. She said I could still attend her wedding in the Maid/Matron of Honor dress but just sit in the audience . WTF!!!