Post # 1
My son is 3. He really likes to do things that “mom” does, wears my skirts as dresses, puts on makeup, and he really likes to have his nails painted. I can paint them clear for all he cares, but he thinks its fun. I really think that he is just in the stage that he wants to do what I do (he will want to put on makeup when I am, and paint his nails when I am, but he doesn’t ask any other time). My husband gets so mad when I will paint one of his nails. Is it ok for me to do that? Or should I not be? What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
@Rosie Girl: I’ve done it for my son… he used to be the same way but he grew out of it… I only paint my nails black though (sometimes silver) but black is usually okay for girls and boys… at least with the people I know. I don’t think theres anything wrong with it… and soon he’ll grow out of it.
Post # 4
I dressed my little brother up in dresses did his makeup and painted his nails and he is seriously like a MANLY MAN now I dont think its bad at all… Oh and he also played with barbies…
Post # 5
I used to teach swim lessons to a kid who liked to get his toes painted when his mom did her nails. When he started kindergarden his mom said no more and it was not really a big deal. The kid understood. I mean so what? It is bonding time and really what is more important than that? Is your husband really going to let society interfear with a bond that is that important?
Post # 6
I don’t see a problem with it at all!
Post # 7
Of course its ok – because down the road there are 2 possibilities…
he’s gay – in which case you’re going to love him anyway, and painting his nails or not painting his nails won’t change that, but it will make him feel supported and not judged by his mom
he’s straight – in which case, nail polish isn’t going to make him gay, and if he’s not some “im a dude and I only do DUDE things” kinda kid and learns things like painting nails can be fun and not necessarily emasculating, he will be a more open minded straight guy – and the world needs more of those.
Regardless, right NOW, he only knows that he wants it and its fun – thats the beauty of being 3. No need to complicate it with gender roles us lame adults have had pounded in to our heads over the years.
Post # 8
Just like you said, he’s at an age where he wants to do what you’re doing! There’s nothing wrong with that. My 3-year-old nephew is the same way, and my sister-in-law painted his toenails blue earlier this summer. He just thought it was so fun – he was actually telling me a story about it the other weekend, which I thought was super cute. Tell your husband to cool his jets! I’m assuming he has some irrational fear that painting his nails will turn him gay, but that’s absurd.
Post # 9
@mandypop: This. Exactly. Well said.
Post # 10
Gender is a cultural invention and has nothing/little to do with ones biological sex. With that said, PAINT AWAY! lol.
Post # 11
Thanks for your input! I don’t see anything wrong with it either. I know that he is just wanting to do what I do, and he has fun! I think my husband is scared of what others will say, and that it will do “something” to him, which I know it won’t, and I would love him no matter what anyways! But after hearing it from my husband, I was worried that maybe I was wrong…
Post # 12
I think all little boys go through this stage, at least all the little boys I’ve ever known. Usually around that age too. As you said, he wants to do what you’re doing, and he’s just having fun.
Post # 13
What Mandypop said. Painting his nails won’t MAKE him gay. He either will be or won’t be, but nail painting at age three has nothing to do with it.
I babysat for a girl and her younger brother. I painted her nails one day, and the boy wanted his done, too. I tried to talk him out of it, but he didn’t think it was fair that his sister got to do it and he didn’t. So I gave in. I don’t think his dad was thrilled, but it was a fairly dark color (not like, hot pink or something super girly), and the kid was just happy to be included. It comes off.
Paint them clear if it really bothers your husband, but at age three, he hasn’t really discovered “boy things” and “girl things” yet…that will come soon enough, so enjoy your mommy & son time while you can!
Post # 14
I really dont see anything wrong with that.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t let him, but more for the reasons of– how are you going to keep him still long enough for the polish to dry and not get anywhere? Plus, those fumes… (even I worry for myself if that’s bad for my lungs or whatever.)