- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
After a huge ordeal of changing my e ring from Christmas (when we got engaged) to when I finished customizing the ring (almost a month ago), I still can’t stop noticing other peoples rings!! Its driving me nuts and makes me feel so materialistic.
Perhaps it has something to do with a bunch of people getting engaged over the past few weeks on Facebook; maybe it’s partly living in a big city where I see tons of rings on the train every day… perhaps it even has something to do with a little of my own insecurity.
I went from a .41 diamond to a 1.23 white sapphire because I was worried about the origins of the stone I did have since it didnt have any documentation; but because sapphires are less expensive than diamonds, and since it was a “trade in” the dollar amounts had to even out, or at least be close. Admittedly, it’s a tad larger than what I had in mind, but I was set on the band and didn’t want a halo.
We got a Sri Lanka sapphire, which is where we’re going to honeymoon. So it’s verrryyyyy romantic to me… I have no qualms with what I have now, I love it in fact… I should! I designed it! I went with a dainty 1.5mm straight diamond band over the chunkier band I had. But sometimes I see these big bands just covered in diamonds and super thick with ungodly rocks in them and it makes me rethink… Even though I’ve gotten a TON of complements on the ring I have now.
And sometimes I wonder if people can tell it’s not a diamond. I don’t try to pass it in conversation, and I always tell people its a WS. But I still feel insecure about it and wonder if people are judging me as a result. If anyone asked I would tell them; like I said I’m not ashamed I have one, I just worry people think I’m trying to pass it, which is more embarassing for me in some ways.
Here’s a pic of the ring in direct compact light on the day I got it for reference:
It’s a diamond cut instead of a gem cut, and when I saw it in the store is sparkled incredibly, and I fell in love. Since bringing it home It’s looked blueish (which it is graded as being near colorless with a hint of blue), to gray, to lavender, to dull with a darkish center, clear and glassy, to the whitest shiniest looking thing I’ve ever seen:
How it normally looks at work with a east facing window with florescent light on an overcast day (today, dirty):
Indirect office light (today):
Direct spotlight, today:
West facing window, indirect sunlight (Sunday):
Really rainy day, east facing window and florescent light (second day I had it):
Sunset, indirect light (Monday):
East facing window and flourescent light, looking glassy (today):
Am I crazy for feeling this way?