(Closed) Money troubles, what can I do?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Welcome… I am 4 years with my SO officially waiting about 4 months….. Its a process but we are all here together… you just have to let him be and work through it be supportive without trying to bring it up.. trust it helps.. things will falls into place..

Post # 4
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868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

placeholder ring? you could always upgrade down the line if you’re planning on joint finances once you’re married?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

How about not paying directly, but indirectly.

You can ask him to put aside a set amount of money each month for it and any money he is short for bills you could make up. At the end, you are still paying, but in a more subtle way. 

I would also make a plan for future savings with him as well because money, or the lack there of, can be a major stress on a relationship and is the number one cause of divorce. Before you get engaged be sure that this is a relationship that is best for both of you. He has lots of expenses, but does he spend frivilously as well? Or is he truley doing everything as best he can. 

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I just had a silly stupid idea that may help.

Since you have a little extra money, maybe once a week you could buy one of those $2 scratch tickets. Any money won on it can be “ring money” and the money spent on the ticket is from your pocket, not his. You never know if you hit a few $20 scratches or $100. Of course you may hit nothing at all, but with your SO’s buy-in you might be able to make a small dent in the savings.  

You may spend more money on the tickets and not win at all, but if you do win something, it may help him feel like its not you paying for the ring. 

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