Post # 1
I haven’t posted on the boards all that much, so let me give you some background info! I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years (our anniversary is on Feb. 14). We have been living together for 1 1/2 years. We have had serious discussions about getting engaged and getting married. We went to look at rings mid January. My boyfriend has been in Kansas all day today and will be there all day and night tomorrow because he runs track in college. Therefore, we were texting back and forth tonight. He asked what I was doing tonight and I told him I was watching Say Yes to the Dress and was hoping and wishing that it was my turn to do that! He replied back and said it will happen soon enough! He keeps telling me that it’s soon and it’s driving me nuts! It’s all I can think about. I even have dreams about it! The thought of engagement has been on my mind every single day since we looked at rings. Any thoughts on how to kind of take my mind off of it?! I keep thinking it will happen around our anniversary, but I don’t want to get my hopes up!
Post # 3
stay as busy as possible. unfortunately, this doesn’t seem to work for me. nothing does =-( wish i could be of more help! hang in there!
Post # 4
create some goals for yourself and get busy completely them- that is the only way to keep from thinking about it.
Post # 5
I agree, stay busy! Guys don’t understand what it is like to ‘wait’ for an engagement so just be patient with him. Maybe he is waiting for something special, or to save up for the ring. Don’t pressure him, just let things happen on their own. It will make it much more memorable and special.
Post # 6
@syounger4: Maybe have a serious discussion about it and dont make him tell you exactly when it is going to happen or anything but stress it to him that you would like to know of his timeline and if his timelime doesnt work for you maybe you can compromise on one together, then let him take it from there, but it wasnt fair to take you ring shopping in mid January if nothing was going to happen and all he was goingt o say is “soon enough” On the other hand how do you know he hasnt already bought it and he is just waiting for the perfect moment to propose?
Post # 7
Some days I wish guys knew the power of words such as “soon” or “this year” or “make sure you wear something nice,” etc. Granted, we need those words to know things are moving. But they are a double edge sword. I know I replied to someone else, and like everyone else, I basically just said keep busy. Honestly, the last couple weeks, being on this site has kept me from thinking about things too obsessively. I read and read and read and read and, well, you get the point. But I get it all out and when I’m done, it’s no longer on my brain. At least till the next day.
Very exciting news though!
Post # 8
I totally see where you are coming from, I’ve been exactly the same way recently. I say, when that happens, take a couple of deep breaths, and just really enjoy where you are right now, and how great it is to be in that position that it’s going to happen. Doing that has really helped me just enjoy the little things that are great in my life.
Post # 9
- Wedding: February 2015 - Weddings at Tiffany's, Maleny
This was posted 2 years ago – so you will be together 7 or more years now. If you still get these replies: please tell us if he did end up proposing!!
Or if not, how you’re going or whether you ended it.