Post # 1
I will be getting engaged very soon and I am so excited that I am already thinking about planning a wedding. I don’t even have my ring yet! But yet I am still fantasizing about all how wonderful it will be. I dream about meeting my soon to be Fiance at the end of the aisle. I would love to get married this year because we are long distance and it is difficult. However, I am not working. I made a list of Pros and Cons to getting married this year as opposed to 2013. We will both be having significant help financially from our parents. If I could convince my guy, I know I would need a job ASAP and I would be willing to take what I could get (I am a teacher with a graduate degree but currently not working).
My pros and cons are below. Please tell me what you think……
Planning the wedding can be done within this timeframe: hall, photographer, church
Able to spend more time together
Able to start our life together
Able to save more money towards living expenses rather than spending money on dinners out and other activities
Not having to go through another Winter-driving back and forth
Interest rates for homes are low
Able to find and look for work in bigger city
Fall asleep and wake up next to each other
Finding a place to live by Fall
People may think it is “too soon” or we are rushing
I’m not working
May have to delay our honeymoon
Post # 3
I am told that interest rates are going to remain that low for over a year but I really don’t know how that works. I need to look into it.
You can also save instead of going to dinners out and such without planning for a 2012 wedding; I know Fiance and I cut back when we realized we needed to save for a wedding. It is never a bad idea to start saving.
I’m not trying to say you must wait until 2013, just that some of the pros can be addressed in other ways.
I totally understand wanting to be married ASAP (I keep telling Fiance we should elope) but it comes down to what you both feel will be the best foundation for marriage. I don’t know if this can come down to a pro/con list because there are so many emotions tied up in it and emotional things change the balance.
Post # 4
I will just share my I am loving my longer engagement (17 months)
– first choice of vendors. No one has been booked because I started planning early
-payments have been stretched out
-gives me more time to save for the the misc I didn’t count on
-not stressed at all
-more time to check out other options if something is too much or not exactly what I want
-I am just really enjoying this engagement period, it’s so fun and exciting and Fiance and I are loving the planning together
If I wasn’t set on a New Years Eve wedding then I would have had a shorter engagement, at first I was disappointed it was so far away but I am loving it now! I can’t imagine getting married in 6 months and having all this fun and anticipation over so soon!
Fiance have been together for five years already though and we already live together so I wasn’t in a hurry.
But I will say this, if we had pushed for an earlier date we would not be spending as much money on the wedding and all of our savings in 2012 could be going towards our down payment towards a bigger home. So the down side for me was that a longer engagement meant waiting a little longer to move.
Good luck, you will love it either way 🙂
Post # 5
Thank you! Those are some very good points. I called a hall that we both agree on and they have an Oct 13th availability! I will see what he thinks once it happens. I think once I actually get a job, maybe that will convince him more as well because he will be the bigger bread winner in our relationship…. We’ll see what happens! Otherwise we would both love June 2013 as we are both teachers and would be able to go on a honeymoon at that time….
I am just so excited! 🙂
Post # 6
We are just about halfway thru our 16 month engagement and I’ve loved having so much time to do everything. I agree with PP about having the first choice of vendors, etc. Nothing feels rushed.
Post # 7
If you are getting married in a smaller town its totally do-able. I was engaged end of December and we decided on May. So far I have booked my first choice of everything. With a little luck, there happened to be one cancelation in may at our venue so we took it up fast. The only down side is you don’t have much time to think about things, you have to go with what you’ve been given. But if I had a long engagement, I would have had all my planning done, then changed my mind and had to do it all over again.
Your pros seem to out way your cons. Life will work itself out after your married.