(Closed) Soon to be engaged and I feel so guilty!

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I can’t believe you looked at his bank account.  Please pretend to be surprised…!

Post # 4
1342 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@curiousbride2b:  Pretend to be surprised!  You ruined it for yourself, do NOT ruin it for him!!!!!!!!!!  And, congrats!!  🙂

Post # 5
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@peachacid:  +1

I have given my SO ideas on my ring and left it at that. I want this to be a surprise from him. Please act surprised. I think he would be devastated to know that looked through all of that stuff to find the ring/information.

Post # 6
3830 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why did you snoop? You ruined it for yourself. Try to act surprised and dont repeat this to anyone else. 

Post # 7
2287 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Very few proposals are surprises from what I have read. There is not much you can do about it at this point. I see no reason to tell him and ruin his moment, though. You will be engaged, which is what really matters. 

Post # 8
663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

“By looking through bank accounts, snooping through drawers and phones” Seriously? Unless he knows you go through his things like this, you have boundary issues.

I knew the day it was going to happen. I was still thrilled and surprised when it actually happened. You will be too.

Post # 9
1405 posts
Bumble bee

@curiousbride2b:  You didn’t “find” the ring.  You purposely looked for it.  I would be extremely pissed if someone looked through my things like that.  

Post # 10
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Sunflower–girl:  +1

I would be upset if I knew he was looking through my stuff like that. I have nothing to hide, but it would seem untrustworthy and just downright crazy if he was doing that.

I thought I felt guilty for accidentally finding out that he bought the ring and which day it’ll be here. I let that go because it wasn’t in my hands, I never looked for the ring. Since I don’t know how exactly he’ll be proposing, it’ll still be a surprise.

Post # 11
3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Personally, I hate surprises. If it were up to me, I would want to be in on every detail. Luckily my boyfriend was willing to compromise with me. I got to pick out the ring and he told me that he will ask me sometime within the next 4 months. I know he was reluctant to even tell me that much. You got to pick out the ring. Leave the next part up to him!

Post # 12
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Pretend to be surprised!!  Don’t ruin all the hard work and thought your SO put into this!

Post # 13
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Go on YouTube and search “Acting Lessons” so you can at least look surprised.


Post # 14
641 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Okay, you runied it for yourself, yes..but STOP SNOOPING!! you want to be a little suprised of how it happens 🙂 and also I wouldnt tell him you know, be suprised!!

Post # 16
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@curiousbride2b:  Lol curious indeed!

I wouldn’t do the over top pretending to be surprised thing, but I think this is one instance where you probably should keep your mouth shut. Even though you know it’s going to happen, I am sure that once it all comes together and you’re in the moment, it’ll still be magical and you’ll have a genuine reaction.

Unless he knows you really well and can tell you’ve been snooping, I would just keep that little detail to yourself.


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