Post # 1
Hi all, this is my very first post here. I’m going to start off by saying I’m way too much of a snoop and that’s how I am at where I am right now. Im 99% sure I will be engaged this Sunday. My boyfriend and I went and looked at rings 2 months ago. We only looked at one place and narrowed it down to one ring. By looking through bank accounts, snooping through drawers and phones everything leads me to believe I will be getting proposed to on Sunday. I have found the ring. I love it, it’s the one I picked out. I’m very excited this is happening but I feel terrible that I know all of this. Of course I wanted my proposal to be a surprise but I have ruined it for myself. My boyfriend does not know that I know all of this and I don’t know if/when/how I will ever tell him. Does anyone have any similar experiences with finding their engagement ring or knew the proposal was happening before it did? Or any advice? I know the best advice would be not to be so nosey!! 🙂 Thanks in advance for the responses
Post # 3
I can’t believe you looked at his bank account. Please pretend to be surprised…!
Post # 4
@curiousbride2b: Pretend to be surprised! You ruined it for yourself, do NOT ruin it for him!!!!!!!!!! And, congrats!! 🙂
Post # 5
I have given my SO ideas on my ring and left it at that. I want this to be a surprise from him. Please act surprised. I think he would be devastated to know that looked through all of that stuff to find the ring/information.
Post # 6
Why did you snoop? You ruined it for yourself. Try to act surprised and dont repeat this to anyone else.
Post # 7
Very few proposals are surprises from what I have read. There is not much you can do about it at this point. I see no reason to tell him and ruin his moment, though. You will be engaged, which is what really matters.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings
“By looking through bank accounts, snooping through drawers and phones” Seriously? Unless he knows you go through his things like this, you have boundary issues.
I knew the day it was going to happen. I was still thrilled and surprised when it actually happened. You will be too.
Post # 9
@curiousbride2b: You didn’t “find” the ring. You purposely looked for it. I would be extremely pissed if someone looked through my things like that.
Post # 10
I would be upset if I knew he was looking through my stuff like that. I have nothing to hide, but it would seem untrustworthy and just downright crazy if he was doing that.
I thought I felt guilty for accidentally finding out that he bought the ring and which day it’ll be here. I let that go because it wasn’t in my hands, I never looked for the ring. Since I don’t know how exactly he’ll be proposing, it’ll still be a surprise.
Post # 11
Personally, I hate surprises. If it were up to me, I would want to be in on every detail. Luckily my boyfriend was willing to compromise with me. I got to pick out the ring and he told me that he will ask me sometime within the next 4 months. I know he was reluctant to even tell me that much. You got to pick out the ring. Leave the next part up to him!
Post # 12
Pretend to be surprised!! Don’t ruin all the hard work and thought your SO put into this!
Post # 13
Go on YouTube and search “Acting Lessons” so you can at least look surprised.
Post # 14
Okay, you runied it for yourself, yes..but STOP SNOOPING!! you want to be a little suprised of how it happens 🙂 and also I wouldnt tell him you know, be suprised!!
Post # 15
Wow, I see there are some pretty harsh people here. He is fully aware I have his bank account information. He gave it to me to help him balance his checkbook multiple times. He showed me the computer screen that showed the total amount of money that was in his account. I knew how much he had before, he tells me things like this. I was doing laundry and purposely pulled out his sock drawer further than normal (thats where the ring was). I’m not saying that any of my snooping was ok. Im already feeling guilty about this. I guess im looking for similar stories, not for people to tell me how horrible I am.
Post # 16
@curiousbride2b: Lol curious indeed!
I wouldn’t do the over top pretending to be surprised thing, but I think this is one instance where you probably should keep your mouth shut. Even though you know it’s going to happen, I am sure that once it all comes together and you’re in the moment, it’ll still be magical and you’ll have a genuine reaction.
Unless he knows you really well and can tell you’ve been snooping, I would just keep that little detail to yourself.