(Closed) soon to be hubby brought this home last night :(

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Happy7:  I completely 100% understand what you are going through! We live right by the train and my fiance insists on riding his bike to work every morning.  I stress the whole time.  We have a rule that I get a text message when he gets to work so that I know he has made it safely.  I told him to get it over with now because once kids come the bike is going bye bye.  Does he have a long commute on it?  Do you ever ride on it with him?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Talk to him about compromise — wearing a full face and head-coverage helmet, wearing appropriate jacket, etc.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am so scared that my SO will want a bike. He rode them before I met him. They are so dangerous and would be so worried if he had one. I understand totally. 🙁 I’m sorry.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I wish I had some advice.  DH used to have a bike that I desperately wanted him to get rid of because they’re so dangerous.  He didn’t do it until we fell on hard times and couldn’t afford the monthly payment any more.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have no advice as I would be furious. I can only admire the fact that you didn’t kill him.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Happy7:  i am so afraid i might find one of those in our garage one day.  my dh keeps looking at them but i am have the same mindset as you.  i know that my dh is a safe driver but i keep telling him that it’s the other drivers that i am worried about.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Happy7:  My fiance keeps upgrading too….he currently has an R1 as well, I only ride when driving would be a pain for parking (we live right outside of Boston).  Yikes, 45minutes, I would be more nervous too.  My fiance only rides for about 20minutes.  The train though is the same amount of time, fiance just doesnt like waiting for the train.  Does he wear a helmet?  In MA there is a helmet law.  I don’t know what to say about the having kids already, that would make me a nervous wreck.  I always tell my fiance that with just me its one thing but once he is responsible for kids as well no way (we will see if he give it up or now).  Any compromise you can make so he gives up the bike?  I don’t know any other real suggestions.  Just don’t drive yourself nuts worrying about it.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

It is scary, but so is every other mode of transportation. I would be more scared if he drove like a maniac zipping between cars and such… But if he’s a responsible bike rider, I wouldn’t worry so much…. but I would ask him with tears in my eyes NOT to ride in the rain!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yikes, donorcycles… 

If it’s the only thing he does for himself, I don’t know how you can ask him to stop, but you should clearly express exactly how much it worries you every single day and why. Ask him to take literally every safety precaution possible. I would never let my Fiance ride one, and I wanted one before I met him. I used to have guy friends who rode motorcycles together, they brought me with them on the back of a bike many times, and I would never go now that I feel like I have so much more to lose. I also hate driving in my car behind a motorcycle because I know I couldn’t stop in time if he lost control and fell. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m also not a fan of motorcycles and I think I would have a straight up heart attack if Fiance brought one home… so I don’t know what to tell ya :/   But I would definitely at least talk to him about wearing proper protective gear. Michigan riders don’t have to wear helmets now and I just don’t understand how anyone would want to put themselves in that kind of danger!

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I use to have the same fears when my husband started looking at them. Well we bought one & I still had fears… Until I rode it! Riding it was alot of fun, we always wear our helmets & my husband drives extra careful.

He doesn’t drive it to work though. I know I couldn’t handle that. I would have a heart to heart with him. Tell him you would feel so much better if he rode it on the weekends instead of to and from work all week.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

thank god my Fiance doeant want a motorcycle, i would trash it if he brought one home. My uncle had a terrible accident when riding one and now his hip and knee are damaged, he strugles so much to walk

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