(Closed) Soon to be MIL is driving me crazy already! (Vent)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
47439 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ElizabethNicole:  You can make a conscious choice to just not react. . Just acknowledge what she says, then tell her the issue is resoloved.

” I know you would like your neighbour down the street to be invited, but we have already reached capacity. It would be rude to invite her if we don’t actually have the room to host her if she decided to come.”

Post # 4
9535 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

who is paying for the wedding?  if you and Fiance are, then you guys get final say in the guest list. 

have your Fiance deal with his mother. 

as long as you and Fiance are on the same page, don’t worry about it.


Post # 5
10450 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

Is she willfully ignoring the 68 limit? Just don’t accept her money and keep the guest list how you want it, invite your fiance’s friends first! 

Post # 8
47439 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@ElizabethNicole:  It does get old. Just picture yourself covered wih a white veil that protects you from anything- head to toe. Nothing can penetrate the veil.

Post # 9
2861 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@ElizabethNicole:  Blame it on Disney! Everyone knows getting married at Disney is $$$ and they have a lot of restrictions. 

Post # 10
2211 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@ElizabethNicole:  I hear ya, lady.  My Future Mother-In-Law wanted to invite HER cousins and their KIDS to our wedding.  They don’t live in our area and Fiance doesn’t know them and has only seen them twice in his life.  Not a family reunion.

I agree that this is for your Fiance to take care of.  He needs to tell him mom no, not you.  There’s no need for you to be the “bad guy.”

In our situation, his mom kept pushing so hard that I finally said to Fiance “I’m so stressed out and sick of this, just invite them” and he insisted we stick to our guns and not invite them, which is what we did.  Now that our Save the Dates have gone out, we can’t add or change guests, and she hasn’t said anything again.

Post # 12
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m in a similar situation. I have no advice, but my heart goes out to you! Let’s just plan on only getting married once, shall we? 😉

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