Post # 1
Hi everyone, My fiance and I are having a bit of a dilemna with my soon to be mother in law. She is a fantastic person, and we get a long great. I can’t help but feel a little annoyed at times when I am around her because she calls us everyday, sometimes twice a day….and on the weekends we usually get a call once in the morning and once in the evening. We would be more understanding if the phone calls were valid but basically they are about what her and her significant other have done that day….IE……"Ohhhhhh Hiiii, We just went for a walk, and now I think I am going to pick some carrots from the garden". I could handle a couple of those phone calls a week no problem, but every day just seems so overbearing. The worst part is she is the secretary in my fiance’s office so it’s not like there is a lack of communication whatsoever. It has gotten so bad some days (the amount of calls that is, that we have started not answering her calls at all. Is there a nice way to tell her we think she calls us too much? Or am I just being a jerk?….Thanks ladies!
Post # 3
I think if you only answer her calls every other day (or whatever feels comfortable for you), she will eventually get the hint, and not call so much. I am the most non-confrontational person ever, so maybe that’s not the best advice 🙂 🙂 good luck.
Post # 4
My sister has that problem with her in-laws! She loves them, and they’re so great, but they call all the time!
She and my BIL just don’t answer the phone. They still call..and keep calling until they answer the phone (I mean the home phone, cell phone, why didn’t you answer, the whole nine).
They haven’t found another solution because addressing it would just hurt their feelings. Sometimes BIL will just answer and get off quickly, but that’s it. So let me know if you come up with something!
Post # 5
My future in-laws call twice per day. It really really really annoyed me at first. A lot. My fiance and I had several arguments over it. Now I have just come to accept that is how my in-laws are… needy. My fiance and I have rules now. He will not answer the phone if we are legitimately busy. He is not to speak to them when we are driving. (Pet peeve of mine) He is not to speak with them on the evenings that we have plans. Also, he does not speak with them on Friday evenings because that is our "date" night. And he will absolutely not talk to them on our honeymoon or any vacations other than to tell them we have arrived safely. Even those rules get broken so when I find myself annoyed with their call, I leave. I leave the room, leave the house, whatever. If I cannot hear the painfully boring conversation I am fine. I learned quickly that as much as I would like to change them I cannot, I can only change my reaction! Good luck!!
Post # 6
Thanks ladies, my fiance and I are on the same page about this one….we both feel she just calls far too much, and often at his office, he’ll have to tell her to leave his office because he is busy doing work. She doesn’t get the hint, so maybe I just have to face the facts and deal with it. I could never tell her, as I would never want to hurt her feelings.