(Closed) Soon-To-Be_Ex-Husband took my rings

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@devastatedbride:  Wow, I hope he didn’t swap out the stone. I know that in my state, as soon as Darling Husband and I were married, they became my property (he actually told me that. I had no  idea! I thought they were mine when he gave them to me lol). Maybe he’s just being vengeful and wanting to make things difficult? I read your other post and it sounds like that may be an explanation for some of his actions. 

Post # 5
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@devastatedbride:  Oh, I see. Well, then he should have to hand them over ASAP! 

Post # 6
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2903 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@devastatedbride: Whwn my ex left me (he had began a relationship with a co-worker) I took his rings (he had 2) because I did not think he deserved them and I wanted to sell them. So really my guess is eaither he is afraid you will sell them and get the total value of the rings and he wants a lawyer to tell him who deserves the cash for them. Did he pay for them? Even if he did, they were a gift to you and I don’t think anyone would say that they belong to him.

Post # 7
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131 posts
Blushing bee

Well I guess if you have a prenup stating that it is yours there are no further arguments. I agree get the stone checked once they reappear, his actions do not make sense

Post # 8
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Once you are married, your rings are legally your property to keep. They do not belong to him, even if he paid for them. However, I would just follow your lawyer’s advice because you don’t want things to get any more complicated.

Post # 9
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1 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Wow. That’s horrible. I’d ask your lawyer to draft a letter requesting them back. At least have the lawyer hold them and get them appraised to ensure he didnt switch out the stones.

Post # 10
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Has he finished paying for them? I am wondering if he took them to return and possibly get any money back…or at least not have to pay on them any more.

 

I ask because my ex Fiance did the very same thing. He snuck into my room when I was moving out and took the ring from my purse and hid it.

Post # 11
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5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Can I please go and punch your husband?  Wherever he is, he seriously deserves a smack upside the head.

I’m so, so sorry you’re dealing with his stupidness.  🙁

Post # 13
Hostess
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Honey, it is *not* ok that he took your rings. You need to have your lawyer take immediate action on that. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, you do not deserve this. Nor do you deserve to be with someone who isn’t truthful with you, who isn’t committed to building a life with you, and who can carry on for months living what is essentially a lie. You DO deserve pretty much the complete opposite of that.

I know it’s really hard right now, but you get through this. And you will go on to build a beautiful, worthwhile life full of happiness and people who love you dearly. Try to remember that in the coming days and months.

Also, throughout all of this, please do stand up for yourself. You DO NOT have to let him bully you around, take your rings, bug you to move out of YOUR home, or any other silly BS he comes up every few days. 

*Hugs*

Post # 14
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8363 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think it depends entirely on the laws of the state you live in. Sometimes even a prenup can be voided due to certain laws. In some places the rings are considered a gift, in other places they are considered the givers property. Also in cases of infidelity a judge/laws can determine who gets the rings.

I would say his lawyers have told him to get the rings and keep them until it is settled in the courts. They may have also told him to get them valued and authenticated in case you switched the diamonds.

Sorry you are going through this but I would suggest getting a good lawyer and brace yourself for a nasty divorce. 

Post # 15
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1851 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

It sounds to me like he wants to have proof that he gave you the rings…he seems to think you are going to take the rings, hide them, and claim that he never gave them to you and demand that he reimburse you for the rings. Which sounds nuts even as I type it out. That’s what it sounds like to me though.

Post # 16
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157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t know how amicable this divorce is (or how amicable you want it to be), but I’d definitely report it as a theft because that’s exactly what this is. It’s not up for debate as to who own the rings. They are yours as stipulated in the prenup.

 

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