Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
Not even engaged yet, but a proposal is just around the corner! Family is already talking about when we will get married. While I know it’s ultimately up to FH and I to decide I was wondering what other’s thoughts were on the topic. My mom says why wait? Get married this year – September or October! This would likley give us 3-4 months to plan. I feel like this would be too rushed. I would like some more time to plan and was aiming at June 2014, which would give us a solid year. I don’t want to plan for the winter because we’re in WIsconsin! FH and I have talked and while he knows people who have gotten married quickly and would be fine doing the same he also really wants me to have whatever I want for the wedding (within our budget of course – I’m not talking anything over the top). Additionally, FH is starting a new full time job in June, possibly moving to be closer to his new job and me (we do not live together), and I feel like it’s just going to be too stressful to try and bring everything together in just a few months? Do you bees agree? Anyone plan a quick wedding, what are your thoughts?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Ms_Purple: Why rush? Being engaged is fun!
Plus it sounds like in 4-5 months you’ll have a lot more to plan than a wedding — like living together and your SO’s new job.
Post # 4
I say wait for a bit, let your SO get his new job and settle in. Also, he may not be able to take time off right away for a honeymoon.
Ultimately, it comes down to will you have enough money saved in just a few short months, and will you be able to plan the wedding you want, with everything else in your lives going on.
Post # 5
@Ms_Purple: I would wait! Being engaged is SUPER fun! Plus, you want to have time to find your perfect dress etc. You’ll be married forever, so enjoy your engagement
Post # 6
I say wait! We ended up with a 7ish month engagement and, while I always thought I wanted a short engagment and I KNEW for at least 6 months that the engagement was coming, I have found myself feeling a little rushed. Just yesterday, I found myself wishing that we had gotten engaged sooner and had more time to deal with all of the planning. We are also dealing with planning an out-of-state move and looking for jobs in the new state at the same time. Sounds like you will also have more on your plate than a wedding. I would definitely wait until next summer!!
Post # 7
Get engaged first.
Plan your wedding the way you’ve always dreamed.
Moreover, use the time to plan your marriage.
Give FH time to settle into his job. Just r-e-l-a-x and you and FH go at your own pace.
Mom is just excited, and that is nice, but you have your own timeline.
Post # 8
@Ms_Purple: Definately wait! It is stressful enough to plan a wedding (depending on what type of wedding you want) and giving yourself a year gives you plenty of time to think about things. If you do it in 3-4 months you will probably rush to plan everything and won’t be able to enjoy planning as much and you might be pushed into things you may have had time to think about more if you had more time. Also, many venue’s/vendors might already be booked and you might have to settle for 2nd or 3rd best.
Post # 9
Unless you’re loaded or going to the courthouse, weddings take time and money to plan. Most places and vendors book a year+ in advance. You’ll also need that time to get used to the idea of getting married and what your plan will be after that.
We got engaged last February. My great aunt told me that I couldn’t get married in June because she was getting married in June (for the 4th time!!!), and I was like, “You seriously think I’m going to plan and pay for a wedding in 4 months? No.” I couldn’t believe that she even thought that would happen.
Post # 10
So I found this out during the planning process – if you’re wanting one of the more popular Madison venues or photographers in the summer, they book up a year or more in advance (assuming you’re wanting a Saturday). We booked our venue a year and a half early, and they already had June 21, 2014 taken. We had been going back and forth between the 14th and 21st. That made the decision easier. We booked our photographer last month, and I know she’s got dates in June 2014 already taken as well. Our 2nd choice photographer had the date booked before we could even get an appointment to discuss portfolios. I know several of my friends that got married in ‘off months’ (September/October) had to book a year out too. So take your time and get what you really want instead of having to call around like a crazy woman to find out what’s left over.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
Thanks everyone, this afirms what I was already thinking!
@MariContrary I worried a lot about that too in Madison, it seems like places book up way in advance. SO and I were actually hopeing to see if we can have our ceremony in the new library once it opens. There will be an auditorium on the top floor. That doesn’t even open for almost 5 months! I plan on looking into that soon. For reception sites we’re not too specific on any one place so I think we’ll have more flexibility there but of course we want somewhere nice.