Post # 1
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Helper bee
GRRR. I woke up this morning to find my purses spewed on the floor…and was wondering what the heck happened. These are purses that I rarely use and keep them stored in my suitcase, which I keep in the hall closet. I look in there and the suitcase is gone. SO took it out while I was asleep and gave it to his brother who lives 2 floors downstairs from us for his trip. Without asking me. Oookay.
Then I go to plug in my phone to charge and my charger is gone!! I find out, SO gave it to his brother to use cuz he left HIS at a friend’s… so I have to use a crappy, short-cord charger that’s from a bluetooth, but is compatible with my phone.
I go to get the hand held dirt devil vaccuum to do the edges of the carpet…..GONE…..lent to my SO’s brother, to clean his car….well, that’s been in his car for weeks now.
I don’t mind sharing, I really don’t, but it’s SOOOOOO frusterating to go to use something and it’s gone.
SO just doesnt get it and why I get so mad. I hid his toothbrush, when he wakes up and finds it’s not there, I’ll say “Sorry, it’s downstairs, I lent it to my friend” lol. I think I need to start misplacing HIS stuff til he gets the point.
Vent over.
Post # 3
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Helper bee
I hate that. At least ask/tell us first!!
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
Oh gosh. Luckily, my SO doesn’t do anything this bad.. he does take my phone charger or tablet for his own personal use.. which is okay. I’m never okay with loaning things as Ive been burned MANY times.
My brother, however, always used to take my stuff. ALL. THE. TIME. He’d leave it at his friends, girlfriends, apartment, school.. anywhere he felt like it. I’d never see the item again!
It drove me insane.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
ugh i get possessive of my things so i would be so pissed lol
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
@westcoast_girl: DH knows how possesive I am over all my things so he would never attempt to do this lol
Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
That is SERIOUSLY irritating! II’d make him at LEAST ask first! And to go get the items back if they’re not returned within a reasonable amount of time.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
SO’s brother doesn’t have the best track record of keeping things in good shape either. He was borrowing a friend’s bike and he let it slide down a tree, scrapping the paint. I was like “OMG! The paint is pretty scratched up” and his response was “Oh well…its not my bike…he usually puts a styrofoam pad over that part anyway”
It’s one thing borrowing things, but not taking care of them is a whole other story. I’ve had things come back in worse shape then when I lent them…or not come back at all. So I try to avoid it.
I’m going to have so much fun with pissing off SO with hiding his things lol.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
I’m not at all possessive, so I sort of see your SO’s point. I would give the shirt off my back to just about anybody, even if that meant I’d have to go shirtless in exchange. But my husband is VERY possessive over his stuff, and he gets so pissed if I lend stuff of his away or use it (like his lotion, holy crap does he freak out!).
I see both sides, but I think ultimately he just needs to stop doing that if it bothers you so much. I’ve gotten to the point that I will only lend stuff if my husband okays it first, and if I use something of his that I know he wouldn’t want to me, then I’m extra sneaky 🙂
Post # 10
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Helper bee
@MrsSkeletonKey:
Hahaha his lotion? That’s so funny!!
I think it’s more the fact that when I need to use something and go to get it, it’s not there and he didn’t even tell me he gave it to his brother (who will probably trash it as well). I really needed my hand held vaccuum cuz I spilt dirt on the window sill… Or when my phone charger is gone and I have to go on a hunt for an alternative when my battery is about to die. It’s the inconvenience of it 
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
@westcoast_girl: I totally see your point, and I agree; it’s very irritating from your stand point!
He can loan his stuff all he wants, but loaning your stuff (especially to somebody who doesn’t treat it well) is crossing the line.
Hopefully he gets the hint soon and knocks it off!
(Oh, haha, and yep, lotion! He has this minty face lotion that he doesn’t like me to use because it’s expensive & his one “pampering item” lol. You’d have thought I married a gay man! 😛 )
Post # 12
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Busy bee
Honestly, this seems really inconsiderate to me. This definitely would be a huge issue in a relationship for me. It is one thing to lend or give something to a loved one that is genuinely in need, and a whole other thing to give away someone else’s possessions to a careless mooch that will use, abuse, and loose them. Eff that.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
@LoveBugBee:
Exactly. It’s really inconsiderate of my feelings. His brother is very careless, disorganized and very immature. Nothing in life is serious to him. He left this morning for Mexico and didn’t even have a suitcase! Hence, where mine went -_- I don’t know how people function in life.
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
@westcoast_girl: gh, that would be really annoying. I like my things and I like my things to always be in the same place. FI makes me mad just when he doesn’t put my things back where they belong, if he was lending them out to someone else I’d go batty.
Which reminds me…one time when I was out of the country my ex-husband lent my car out to his babysitter. His reasoning being that she had to watch our children while I was gone and she didn’t have a car. He never asked, I only found out when I got back and found empty packs of 3 different kinds of cigarettes, left over food, a blanket and a sweatshirt in my car, none of which belonged to me. I was genuinely pissed and he did not know what on earth my problem was.
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