(Closed) Sooo excited, but so broke! = frustration

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Aww thats a bit tough. Hard trying to rain in that excitement.

At least Theres are so many things that you can do without spending money. Inspiration boards ideas.. research budgeting until you have the money. There are somethings I shelled out the money for and i was like.. dang it if i just waited  or researched it a bit more I couldve got that cheaper!

Post # 4
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010


First of all, congrats!!!

One of the things I sort of regret about our upcoming wedding is spending so much money on it. Our budget is $10,000 for up to 100 people, which might not seem like a whole lot in wedding terms, but it is to me! When it comes down to it, it’s a huge amount of money for such a short period of time. You can have just as much fun on a budget. It’s almost more fun to try to be creative and find inexpensive ways of doing things. DIY is a great way of customizing your wedding, and if you want it to be, it can be much less expensive!

Do you have family members who might be able to help with anything? My grandma paid for my dress. She offered after we were talking about dresses over dinner one night, and she was so excited to be involved in that part of the wedding. Otherwise, we’re paying for the rest on our own, for the most part.

One more thought – would babysitting evenings/weekends be an option? That’s what I do when I’m trying to earn extra money. It’s great because you’re usually getting paid to just be there while the kids are sleeping. That might even give you more study/wedding planning time. I’m not sure if that’s an option, but just throwing the idea out there. 🙂

Post # 5
3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

ugh i know the feeling… fi and i are paying for almost everything ourselves (except my mom is paying for my cake and dress and his parents are paying for our honeymoon as a gift). anyways…. we save for a few weeks… then buy a few things… save for awhile… then more deposits…. i wish i could just do it all at once! haha. save your change from the day… (we had 300 dollars in a matter of about 2 months worth of change we would have never missed anyways!!)

Post # 6
1254 posts
Bumble bee

I hear yah! There are so many things to do and most cost money to complete…arrgh! The next item on our list are STDs or putting a deposit down for a photographer. I’ve been able to buy one thing every month and with a wedding in May I should be good. But it is frustrating especially when it is out-of-pocket.

Post # 7
1 posts


I know EXACTLY where you are coming from, and I would like to ramble a bit about my tight budget…maybe you can glean some ideas from what I’m doing…

Our honeymoon and my appearance immediately took 2,000 out of our 5,000 budget. I have done a whole lot of shopping around for prices, and a whole lot more DIY handiwork. You need to decide what is most important for you on your day. For me, I wanted to look like a million bucks, and to go to the ocean for our honeymoon. Weeks and weeks of bargain shopping for what I had pictured, and I managed to find an ocean front efficiancy with a kitchen for about 800 in peak season at Ocean City Maryland, and I have a beautiful corset gown with satin shoes and beautiful coordinating veil. My hair and nails (every trip to the salon) is included in the total cost of the 1,000 I had budgeted (and I managed to stay within that budget!)

As for the 3,000 that leaves for about 200 people….My grandmother is making our cake (I bought her clearanced three teir pans and she’s an awesome cook). I am catering myself (my mother is making meatballs, and the rest will be cold foods for my July wedding). I made my own fans on my computer with cardstock and large popsicle sticks. I am painting clearanced wine glasses for my wedding party. I made beautiful centerpieces with supplies bought little by little as the sales hit….There are so many things you can do to cut corners, and still have an elegant wedding and reception.

Money is a very stressful part of a wedding, and I am not going to say it’s been easy. Three weeks away, and I’m a nervous wreck…not to mention the tiffs me and my hubby keep getting in to because of the stress we are both under. I will say that it is possible to have an elegant wedding cheaply if you keep organized, always look for sales, and know exactly what you want BEFORE you start buying things. Google is your friend, lol.

I guess I just want to say hang in there….others are in the same boat, and it WILL come together for you!

Post # 9
529 posts
Busy bee

I think $5,000 is impressive! I try to look at it as a challenge – you will be blessed to have just those nearest to you with you on your big day so you can focus on your Fiance and family. Will you be able to try the dress you want anytime soon? I was all mad at myself for passing up on a great deal for the dress I though I wanted but when I tried it on realized that I was way off on the sizing and would have had to pay for alterations. You might actually save money by waiting! preowneddresses.com lets you set up “alerts” they email to you if a dress becomes available. Good luck! I am sure you will have a beautiful and special day!

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