(Closed) Sooo… I thought until days ago

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t have any kids yet but my Future Sister-In-Law doesn’t want babies because she wants to skip the whole baby stage.  I think she is considering adopting children who are around 4 or 5 years old when they are ready for kids.  

Post # 4
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2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I have two children and I don’t particularly like other people’s kids either. lol  You are still young-wait a few years and I swear the biological clock starts ticking really loud.  By the time I was 23-24, I was dying to procreate.  And I did.  And I’m very glad.  

Oh, and I swore for years that I never wanted kids. Don’t know if that helps but that was my experience:)

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I am 27, and have never wanted kids, and still don’t. I really dont’ care if its “different” when its your own.  I have a life plan set for me and hubs and it doesn’t include children.

People say I will change my mind once I hit 30, but I really don’t think it’ll happen. Hubs and I can’t agree on who would take care of an infant, and I just can’t see us being parents.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I totally feel the same way as you. I don’t like kids. I’ve never had baby fever.  I don’t believe it when people tell me “it’s different when their yours.”  Yeah right…they are just trying to get me into their world of no sleep, crying, tantrums, and poop. 

I’m afraid to have them because I think I would just get burned out.  Sometimes I have a hard time keeping up with work, laundry, cooking meals, etc. for myself and hubby.  But, i’ve seen some of my friends with their kids and their lives have not gotten completely absorbed by diapers and baby clothes and they get stressed out!  So it makes me think – ok, maybe I can do this.

But, I dunno.  I want to travel.  I want to do fun things (that don’t require me to get a baby sitter).  I want to not have to clean up vomit and poop.

I go back and forth all the time.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Before I got pregnant with my first child, I could not stand children. I litterally gagged when I was around them because I thought they were disgusting, but when I got pregnant with my first child all of that changed. I now have three grown children and they are the loves of my life. I can’t even imagine how lonely and incomplete my life would be without them. Even when they were babies, I loved them with all my heart. For me, everything changed when I got pregnant.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@lefeymw: yeah, and I guess I really frustrate people cuz I love spending time with my nieces and nephews, but only during small doses. I don’t have baby talk towards kids, but I sure do with animals!! I speak to children like I do adults, just smaller words. 

I mean, its not like I would abort if I got pregnant, but I just do what I can to avoid it. Maybe I could see myself with an adult child, but I don’t think I could put in the time to get there. I do however, see myself as an awesome aunt throughout life

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Not to ruffle feathers but there’s plenty of research that says when people make big decisions they rationalize whatever decision they make as being the right one. If you make a choice between 2 cars chances are in 1 year you’ll say you made the right decision, not the wrong one. I know that kids can be super fun and a great blessing, but I think a lot of people rationalize it in their head since there aren’t any “take backs” lol.

Your own kids may be different than other peoples, but that doesn’t mean your kid won’t be a brat sometimes, won’t destroy things sometimes, won’t be disgusting a lot of the time, etc. You can have personality differences with your kids just as you can with anyone else.

Your own kids are “easier” because you usually have a built in love for them. None of the actual work is easier. Just like you’d take care of your SO if they were sick, but probably wouldn’t some random person or even most of your friends, you have more built in sympathy and compassion for your own.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m 31 and have never loved “itty bitty babies” newborns, never wanted to hold/see them. I’m still pretty scared of when I have my own in December but I realize that like everyone says “it goes so fast” and when I’m there I am going to try to enjoy it because before I know it, they’ll be a toddler/child/teenager/adult.

Post # 16
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2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@rachiecakes: It is SO true!  Enjoy every minute, no matter what.  I had my first exactly 20 years ago.  Boggles.My.Mind.  In all honesty, I liked the newborn/toddler phase the least, but you’re so busy, it really flies by. And then every stage after that I always thought: This is the best part.

The fact is, all the stages are the best. lol  And now that my youngest just graduated from high school, I think this is the best part. 

Anyway, congrats and good luck-you’ll do fine:)  And as they say, parenting is both the most rewarding and most difficult thing you will ever do.  And it’s so true!

@lefeymw: It’s a difficult decision but if you can picture it, I would say that can do it. You will love your own even if other people’s kids make you crazy:)

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