- 7 years ago
So… wedding planning had been going so, so wonderful! My Fiance and I decided it would be a stress free, easy going process and we are 6 ½ months through an 11 month engagement and not one single argument yet. Both of our families are behind us 100%, our friends are all excited, no problems from bridesmaids, groomsmen, vendors ( yet), staying within budget… NOTHING!
So, this past weekend we were visiting my family for Thanksgiving when my aunt shows up. A little background on her: married 3x, dramatic, has a 12 year old son, 2 young step children, always bickering with my grandmother and using her for money… so needless to say, she is the one family member that everyone just kind of cringes when she comes around. However; her son is ( according to her and my grandmother) God’s gift to mankind. The child can do absolutely no wrong! He is the smartest, most gifted person on the planet and everyone else pales in comparison. Now, in his defense, he IS a very nice kid and has always been that way. It is not his fault that his mother and grandmother act crazy over him! So, Fiance and I kicked around the idea of having him in the wedding party along with my other ( much younger) niece.
When I mentioned this to my grandmother she informed me that my cousin and aunt wouldn’t be coming to the wedding because he has a soccer tournament that weekend ( my aunt thinks the kid is the next Pele). When she told me this I actually wasn’t surprised, because I halfway figured they wouldn’t come anyway and honestly my aunt brings the drama so I thought it probably worked out the best. So over Thanksgiving I am talking to my SIL about my niece at the reception and in the wedding ( she is the flower girl), if she needs me to get a sitter there or what and my aunt chimes in that my cousins soccer tournament was moved and that they probably can come ( along with her 2 step children). I said great, and asked if she wanted me to line up another sitter at the venue or if she wanted to keep them with her, that was fine, too. I also told her there would be alcohol, so if that is not something she wanted then around I understand.
Anyways- my SIL said no problem, my aunt said no problem and that was that. So I thought! My mom called me last night saying my grandmother called her because I supposedly said that kids were not allowed and that I was “mean” and a “bitch” because I didn’t want my aunts step children there. Wait.. WHAT?! My Aunt went straight to my grandmother ( who always gets stuck in the middle of things) and starting stirring up drama about it when I thought I worded it pretty clearly. YES- bring your kids, they can stay with you or they can go with the sitter. YES- there will be alcohol and the reception will go late so keep that in mind. YES- it is out of town and a lot of my Out of Town guests are making it a mini vacation ( we aren’t far from Nashville) and so several friends with kids are leaving them home and coming with their spouses as a long weekend.
Was I out of line in giving her a “heads up” about what to expect and what other people were doing? When any of my other guests asked me about kids I would just say “absolutely.. bring them all”, but since my SIL and I were talking actual wedding weekend logistics and my aunt happened to be within earshot she got the “scoop” on what everyone else was doing and I guess assumed that I don’t want kids there? It aggravated me to no end! I actually do not mind any of her kids—at all… she, however; has always been one giant pain in the ass and everyone was calm and collected until she started sticking her nose in things. It doesn’t really bother me except for the fact that she basically rules my grandmother, and I don’t want my Granny to be stressed/irritated or running around for HER on the wedding day when she should be enjoying being around other, less dramatic family members.