(Closed) Sooo.. was I out of line or did what I say leave too much to be interpreted?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4131 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

You want her to bring her kids, you made suggestions on how she, and the children, can enjoy the day best and she totally ignored everything she said.  She sounds like she wants to be difficult!  Sorry your experiencing this but on the plus side it seems like the rest of your planning is coming along nicely.  I would suggest talking to her again, but I think she’d just hear what she wanted to hear.

Post # 4
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1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree, this is on her.  I would simply reiterate that her children ARE welcome and sorry if she misunderstood based on your comments on what other people were doing with their children.  I would leave it at that.

Post # 5
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3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ugh. This is why I never say anything around my FI’s family, they take things and twist it for dramatic purposes.

I would just do what @milesbella: suggested and then not bring it up again. How ridiculous!

Post # 7
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1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would personally call her and be like “so i heard you called me a bitch…why is that exactly? Because I thought I was clear that you and your step children were indeed welcome at my wedding. If you continue to treat me like this behind my back however, you can forget it”

Post # 9
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree with @milesbella: on how to handle the situation. I don’t think you were out of line OR left too much to be interpreted! You were very clear and went out of your way to give her the options and heads up! So sorry for having to deal with a dramatic family member.. such unnecessary stress!

Post # 11
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3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Are you friends with her on FB?  Do you have her email?  I would send an email out to several people who are bringing kids and give them a rundown of your thoughts on babysitters, kid-friendly activities in the area, etc.  End it by reiterating how excited you are to have all the children there and then there’s nothing she can say.  Boom.

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