(Closed) SOOOO FRUSTRATING… -__-

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Not sure if this is your cup of tea but we did ours at Hazy Meadows Ranch in Lakeside California.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

It’s totally doable. We did our wedding in downtown St. Louis on $10k and could have definitely spent less had we felt like it. My best budget tips would be these:

1. Prioritize what is the most important to you. For us, we felt that a good photog and a cool venue with good food were the most important things, so we budgeted more in that area. We spent way less on things like flowers, my dress, and decor.

2. If you can, slash the guest list. We wanted a small wedding from the start so we only invited the aboslutely essential people, our immediate families and our closest friends. We had about 65 people. I do understand that this isn’t possible for some, so you can ignore this part if you are one of them.

3. HAGGLE. A lot of vendors will give discounts if you ask. Our venue waived the room rental fees for both our ceremony and reception sites. Our florist let us use all the vases, LED lights and such for free so we wouldn’t have to rent them. Our photog gave us a massive discount because of our type of wedding and our agreement that they could feel free to use our pictures in any marketing materials they felt like (I know they have also allowed a few brides a discount in exchange for working bridal shows and talking to potential clients for them after their weddings, like living testimonials.) A lot of vendors will give student, military, etc discounts (our officiant did, photog and florist did).

4. Buy used or on sale as much as possible. My dress we got for 50% off. Most of my candy buffet was from craigslist, garage sales or thrift stores. Just look around, you;d be surprised what people sell.

5. DIY as much as you feel comfortable. We did our own set-up at the venue, we made my BMs dresses, I DIYed our invites. Lots of people DIY decor, cake and flowers as well. Don’t take on more than you can handle though.

6. Use friendors. Take advantage of offers of help. Our wedding planner was a friend of my mother’s who did our wedding for free as a gift to my mom. Another family friend printed our custom invites for free. Some of your friends and relatives may have hidden talents you don’t know about.

Eek. I didn’t mean for that to be a novel, but I wanted to give some tips. Scout around the bee for inspiration. There are a ton of bees who have had gorgeous budget weddings.

Here’s a link to my wedding recaps, if you’d like to see how it turned out for us:

Finally back for a recap! (Pro-pics! Extremely pic heavy!)

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You should try Edward’s Mansion in Redlands, CA. I think it’s pretty affordable from what my family has told me. I grew up there and I always liked that place.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Well it sounds like you are trying to do the OC area, so I suggest The French Estate in Orange.  It is omgfreakinggorgeous.  But their website says they are maxed out for big events until June 2012, unless you get married in February/March.  Their most expensive fees for up to 150 are $3500 for the whole thing.  They work with a caterer that gets you ALL your food for $28/plate.  I wanted to get married there so badly, but Fiance insisted we do his church.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I second Edward’s Mansion. Although Im a little biased because that’s where I’m getting married 🙂 and I’m also an April 2012 bride!

Its fairly reasonably priced, however you do have to use their on-site caterer, but again the prices are reasonable.

If you do like the venue and you have any questions about it, Id be more than willing to answer them!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Tivoli Terrace in Laguna Beach is within your budget.  It is almost totally all inclusive for $50-85/person (including flowers, alcohol, musician for ceremony). 

Also Angelo DaVinci’s in Fullerton puts on a lovely (affordable) reception.

The chapel in downtown Orange (by Chapman University) is beautiful and very affordable.

You can do it!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@emarquisee: I totally understand the issue with the distance. They’re having a special right now where if you book your reception space by the end of the year, you get the ceremony space for free! Which is a really good deal, it’s regularly upwards of 6-700 dollars I believe. You can bring in your own officiant, or you can alternatively use their minister for $200.

They also have several hotels really close by, and guests might be more inclinced to drive the distance if they have somewhere to stay right down the street?

I haven’t done a food tasting yet, so I can’t comment on the quality of the food. I can’t judge it since I haven’t tasted it, There are revies on yelp though, and it seems like there’s nothing but good things about the food.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I highly suggest cutting down your guest list.  You don’t have to invite every person you ever were friends with.  Who do you see regularly and can’t imagine celebrating without? Do you have to have all your cousins there, etc.  I am limiting my list to 50 people.  That is including immediate family and our good friends who we see all the time and feel like they are family.  I don’t want to spend the whole time thanking random people for showing up anyway-if they are this close to us, I don’t need to do that at all.  Anyway, another thing you might be able to do is not have a caterer-at least one that serves you.  We are having a restaurant deliver food for us so it will be yummy and there will be enough but we are serving everything with nice disposable plates and flatware that we intend to chuck instead of having someone do the clean-up and dishwashing.  That will be quite a bit more cost effective.  

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