(Closed) Sore sex. Maybe TMI?

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Aw!  I hate when that kind of thing happens to me!  What type of soap do you use to wash yourself down there? I have found that the bath and body works shower gels irritate me so I use the Dove sensitive body bars and it really helps keep everything balanced.  Do you get the cuts from having sex or from shaving?  Either way, Fiance should be sensitive to it and let you heal up before you have sex again.  I have super sensitive skin in general and will sometimes bleed during sex and will need to cool it for a day before we try again.  

ETA: Oh, and always use cotton-crotch undies and don’t wear pants that are too tight…you need to breathe!  :-p

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

ME TOO!! I get UTI’s ALL the time and feel the same way ๐Ÿ™  I’ve ruined our sex life for it and we’re just now trying to get things back on track…

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

@Sarahbear:  You need to go on a Candida diet and take probiotics (acedophilus) to cleanse the yeast from your system. I am currently doing that myself. I had the exact same problem you described and now it’s gone. It’s soooo much better! I have a UTI problem right now though and that’s not related to the thrush/yeast at all; they are a separate problem.

Edit: I also wash down there with mild baby soap. I use Johnson’s baby soap.

Also, the cuts are not the cause of the thrush, they are a symptom of the yeast.

Edit: Taking antibiotics can increase the possibility of thrush too.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I was having horrible issues exactly like yours along with yeast infections, UTIs everything and getting super frustrated.  The yeast infections were partly due to hormonal issues from my period.  Here is what I did.  I bought feminine balancing wash and only that goes near my lady bits.  It is sudsy, so you can shave with it.  It is near the yeast infection meds.  I also bought a tube of cream that is sometimes included in the yeast infection meds.  As soon as I have slightly any feelings of anything coming on, I use it (external only). I also pee as soon as we are done having sex, and we only use water based lube.  Hope this helps ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@charmedbee:  +1  Def pee after sex!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Make sure HE is clean too. I worked in pharmacy for 8 years and we had patients who kept coming in for yeast infection medication because their husbands were not washing well and causing yeast infections in their wives.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’d go see a doctor instead of self diagnosing.

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I feel the same way with sex too.  Like sometimes I feel like I’ll be really into it and then all a sudden it will just feel harsh.  *TMI*  It’s like I get really dry and start to cramp.  ๐Ÿ™  And I have a history of yeast infections.  LIke I get them once a month right before my period.  I use Summers Eve feminine wash. I’m still trying to find a cream I don’t mind using, but still can’t find anything that really works. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

See a doctor. Use lube (best brand I’ve found is astroglide). Foreplay. Gentle sex with you on top. Pee EVERY TIME within 5 minutes of sex to avoid bladder infections. Rinse off soap used ‘down there’ really well and use unscented soaps. Also make sure he cleans himself before sex.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

The one part of your post that caught my attention was when you said you get little cuts. I was suffering from what is called “fissures”. Mostly, it was one large tear than would keep opening up after sex. It would even bleed and was quite painful during and after sex. After almost a year of suffering, I finally went and saw a obgyn and he prescribed me this estrogen creme. The cream is usually used for women with menopause but also used for women who have vaginal dryness and irritation. I used the cream for 3 weeks and no sex within that time. We finally had sex after 3 weeks and I could not believe the difference!! There was no pain, no discomfort or blleeding. It completely turned my sex life around because now I am not scared to have sex!

I obviously don’t know if this is what you have, but I highly recommend that you go see a specialist that can take a look at what is going on and hopefully be as helpful in a treatment plan as my Dr. was.

Good luck!

PM me if you want any more information ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@prisigtr:  actually, I learned after repeated yeast infections this summer that you shouldn’t use any soap at all on your inner area. My gyn said to get a handheld shower head and spray really good (not inside) with water. Your vaginal area is self cleaning like your cheeks. I have had zero issues since making this change. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so sorry :/ but I can feel your pain so to speak. But it’s only every once in a while that  get problems, when my mind is ready before my body is warmed up. Only to feel the effects of it after, oops. But I can recomend…

-use oil down there when you’re healing (I find any soap way to harsh) bonus EVOO can be  used as a lube, not with condoms though of course.

-not having sex untill your fully healed, otherwise you’ll be stretching wounds ouch!

-foreplay, foreplay, foreplay! guys are ready in 1 second but women are more like deisel engeins, they need to warm up xD

-use lube and your fingers (or his) to make sure everything is all systems go!

-move very slowly in the begining untill there ins’t any uncomfortable tightnes left.

^-^ this allways works for me and I hope I helped you to!

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