(Closed) Sore sex. Maybe TMI?

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 32
Member
2087 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

that sounds terrible.. I’m sorry that’s happening to you.  I have used a feminine wash that’s specificially for PH balance and vaginal health for the last year or so and it’s been helpful.  TMI*** I’ve never had a yeast infection but I’ve had a few bladder infections.  I’ve been told by more than one doctor that the best way to prevent that is to pee right after sex, so that’s always the first thing I do.  Also, about a year ago, I started getting this weird white discharge ONLY during sex.  It seemed so gross and my Fiance was grossed out by it too.  I went to a sexual health doctor who ran tests and found nothing and then eventually a gynocologist. 

He told me that it was just my body… nothing to do.  Although there are vaginal probiotic pills you can get over the counter at the pharmacy that you insert (I had to insert 2/day for one week) and it resets your PH balance there.  I found that really helped and for the last year or so we’ve been good!  The last time we had sex, we used a lube and I had the white issue again.  So maybe it’s that. 

But try the special PH soap and pills.  and As for making the sex less painful, try extending foreplay, using small toys to help your body adjust to his size slowly and always make sure to communicate with your SO throughout sex so he knows what you’re experiencing!

Post # 33
Member
2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I, too, only use water to clean my bits, and while I was skeptical at first, it’s actually even better than with soap. If I feel a yeast infection coming on, sometimes I’ll put a little vinegar into a bowl of water and rinse the entire area with it. The itching is relieved, and I feel like I’m attacking the problem from both inside and out that way.

+1billion on taking probiotics. There are some out there formulated specifically for women, so definitely do the research. Also, cranberry pills are awesome for preventing UTIs. I used to get them all of the time, even as a kid, just because. Finally figured out that I needed to stay way hydrated and take the cranberry pills religiously. Over the years, I’ve stopped needing them.

I’ve never thought of using coconut oil as a lube, but that’s an excellent suggestion! It’s anti-bacterial, anti-septic, and *cue music* anti-fungal. Yes, stress can be a factor because it will lower your body’s ability to fight of whatever may be going on. That counts for your entire body. I tend to get a cold everytime I’m overstressed. Good luck!

Post # 34
Member
4581 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Are you using condoms? I used to have discomfort from sex and got recurring infections (bacterial though, not yeast) and they stopped completely when I switched from latex to polyurethane condoms. Just a thought.

Post # 35
Member
1291 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

eeek. I have the same problem especially when we do it too often. I’m small down there and Fiance is large (TMI???) so that doesn’t help at all I think.  

I didn’t read all the responses but I will say that first you should let your body relax and take a little break from sex so you have absolutely no little cuts or anything. I know this won’t be the most appealing for either of you but it’s important.  
I think you should take a shower, be nice and clean. Wash with nice cool water down there.  And then try to have sex with a healthy amount of lube. This helps me a great deal.

Also, In My Humble Opinion, I would skip the brazilians…they don’t help with this sort of problem, at all.

And as always, ALWAYS pee after sex. ALWAYS. Every single time!

Post # 36
Member
2285 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

@MrsPhilly:  I have had this issue too! A thick, white, pasty discharge that only occurs during or right after sex. It’s not a yeast infection (no pain or burning) and and it’s not an STD. My gynecologist said it was just something normal for my body, despite that this is new for me. Sometimes I don’t have this issue and go for weeks without it, and sometimes I have it every day for weeks. No pain, no other symptoms, just grossness. I never thought about it being a reaction to lube. We switch things around a bit now. We used to use a silicone lube because I had hydration issues from a medication I was taking, but now that I’m off that medicine we use a water based lube and I don’t have that issue as much. I think I’ll try a water based natural lube and see if that clears it up in addition to taking the probiotic.

Post # 37
Member
2087 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@michiru4ever:  Yeah my gyno said it was “just my body” but it’s never happened before and was grossing me out… mine wasn’t really pasty, very liquidy.. only during sex and there was a lot of it.  After the probiotics, it’s mainly disappeared.  Never been THAT bad at least.  Until the last time we had sex… we used lube (and we rarely use it bc for some reason my fiance doesn’t like to, even tho it makes it much easier for me)… and then it happened again.  So i don’t know if it was the lube, bc it’s not the first time we’ve used it… or if my body just decided to be gross again. 

It is just worse bc I know my fiance is grossed out by it… so it makes it harder for me to enjoy sex bc I’m constantly looking down to see if there’s anything on him or if it’s happening.  And if it is, I want to stop and clean up and I’m embarassed.  Ugh… stupid vag issues. Men have it so easy

Post # 38
Member
2285 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

@MrsPhilly:  I don’t think that you should ever feel ashamed of your body or its secretions. It’s just natural, and nothing to feel bad about. I think the stigma against women’s secretions is just related to Save-The-Date Cards. Most women have some sort of discharge that keeps the vagina moist and balanced. If anything, I think that semen is far weirder than any female secretion. One thing I learned in Anatomy and Phsiology that makes me think the vagina is pretty cool is the fact that if pregnancy relied on sperm swimming alone it would be very, very rare. Sperm are slow swimmers and would start to degrade before pregnancy could happen. It would take approximately 5 hours for them to swim from vaginal canal to the egg. Most of it would leak out. But, women’s vaginas have cells with fingerlike extensions that move in waves and push the semen up towards the egg in as little as 5 minutes. Just goes to show how amazing a woman’s body is, but they’ll never teach this in any sex ed class. My professor said that the male reproductive system can be taught in about 30 minutes, it’s very straight forward, but scientists still don’t fully understand the female reproductive system in its entire complexity.

Post # 39
Member
2087 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@michiru4ever:  that is pretty cool!  I know we should love our bodies etc… but you know how it is…

I think I’m just very self conscious bc I know it grosses him out.  He would never have just come out and said that, but I asked him if it grossed him out or what he felt.  And he just said yeah it did, a little.  Now when I pause during sex to check or clean up, he’ll stop me and say forget it, or ignore it, it doesn’t matter… but I know what’s in his head… and It’s gross to me too.  Luckily it’s only happened the one time recently.  If it keeps up, I’ll try the probiotics again

Post # 40
Member
20 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2000

Things like that shouldn’t ruin your sex life.

I think it is important to keep them under control.

I have been a patient at The STI Clinic. co.uk and after a free consultation, it turned out I had an embarassing problem but they were really helpful and discrete and guess what?

After the cures I didn’t have any more problems 🙂

I hope this helps. Let me know!

Post # 41
Member
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@hummingbirdkrista:  to stop from getting UTI’s from sex you need to pee straight afterwards. Ive never had a UTI since by doing this!

Post # 42
Member
2123 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

Sarahbear I had a yeast infection for over a year that really messed up Fiance and my sex life. I’ve been eating natural probiotic yoghurt every day, garlic pills (natural anti-yeast) every day and 100% natural soap (no soap near sensitive area). I also blow dry my lady bits after I get out the shower to make sure I’m not moist down there. I’ve been free for a year now!

Post # 43
Member
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Sarahbear:  use coconut oil as a lubricant (the one that is in a glass jar & is solid white at room temperature).  it is natural with anti-bacterial properties, never dries or gets tacky.  It is soothing & healing.  I have sometimes had the drying problem & painful sex from having endometriosis and coconut oil is the best lubricant ever.

Post # 44
Member
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@MsCarabiner:  just saw your post about coconut oil, I agree it is so amazing, wish I had found out about this years ago lol.

The topic ‘Sore sex. Maybe TMI?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors