(Closed) Sorority Invitations

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The first time I got married was right after college.  I ran into the same problem.  I ended up only inviting the women that I hung out with outside chapter events.  It was a bright-line rule that didn’t have too many snags.

My co-MOH is actually a sorority sister who I didn’t meet until after college, when we stood up in another sister’s wedding.  The bride had transferred from my school to my co-MOH’s school.  It’s pretty neat!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Invite only the girls you’re closest with.  If it were me (and it has been a while since I graduated college, so I’m trying to remember where I was with my sorority sisters at that point in time), I wouldn’t invite the entire pledge class or family line.  I’d invite the few girls that are your closest friends and leave it at that.  In reality, in a couple years, you won’t talk to most of those girls, so I would think about who you think you’ll still be in touch with as a lasting friend, and those are the people to invite.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

my college sorority is rather large (i graduated last year) so i still talk to most of the sisters i did while at school, and see them all during alumni days.   i am only inviting the ones i was actually close with durign school and that i still talk to, seeing as weddings are uber expensive!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

My FI has invited only his little (his big moved abroad and  didn’t stay in touch after he graduated so he figures he isn’t obligated to invite him) and one other brother who was his roommate 2 years in college and would have been invited despite being a brother…granted we’re 2 years out from college and he isn’t in close touch with anybody else…just something to think about…you may not be in touch with all 50 in a few years, are they really all worth whatever price per head? Maybe just think about the top whatever number makes sense for you financially (5? 10?…5 with plus ones?)…I know for our wedding in general our rule was “do we think we’ll still know this person in a decade? do we WANT to still know them in a decade?” if the answer was yes, they were most likely invited. If it was a no, unless there was a BIG obligation, they weren’t invited, simple as that. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you’re looking for an absolute cutoff, I’d do pledge class, big, and little.  MAYBE if you’re super close to a few other ladies, invite them as well.  50 people is a lot just for sorority sisters, you still have your and FI’s family and all his buddies, plus anyone not in your sorority!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Im Olny inviting the ones I actually LIKED.  The rest can deal.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am in a sorority and the sorors certainly do not invite everyone. Some of our chapters can have up to 350 women. So no, you can’t invite everyone and those not close to you wouldn’t expect an invite. I remember one that I saw every single day and was there when my core hung out but didn’t invite me. I can’t remember now if how many of the others she invited, but I let it roll off my back, because in truth, I didn’t know her like that.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Honestly – don’t worry about. Once you graduate and move away you won’t see the girls you didn’t invite. I would spread the word that it’ll be a “small wedding” and you can’t invite everyone now so that girls are aware. And don’t talk about the wedding non-stop in the house, and ask the girls you are inviting to not talk about it too much either. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t know about your the rules in your sorority, but we had a hardfast rule that all sisters in the chapter were to be invited to a wedding. This is one of many reasons why I left sorority life in Uni. 

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