Post # 1
My popi passed and everything was a big mess after that. My whole family is out of control and I’m just so mad that it’s all about money! My daddy is devastated, he lived his whole life with him and he and my mom took care of him, for the last 23 years after my nanna passed (my parents and grandparents lived in the same house cause popi built it back in the days) and dads brother and sister just care about money ( they already got payed the money for the house when they moved out) and have no respect for my popi and his passing. Grrr…I could just cry if I think about it! Today they came over to pick things they like and even took thing that popi wanted to stay in the house…I took of works to be with my parents and help them with popi, cause we had to switch sleeping and as bad as all that was, with washing him, helping him drink or change him or just being there listening to all the old stories he had to tell, even if it was hard to understand him, I could sing with him and make him smile. And those people have the nerve to say, I would have not done that, you guys had no life for those weeks, I would have brought him to a retirement home… I’m so happy and proud that I could spend his last weeks with him…and I miss him really bad.
Sorry for taking y’alls time, I just had to vent and let this out!
Post # 3
I’m sorry for your loss. You will never regret the time you spent with him and caring for him.
The true measure of people’s worth is often determined in difficult circumstances and unfortunately, many of us have family members who do not measure up.
I spent the last year closing my mom’s estate, dealing with a sister who has already had her share gifted to her with papers signed by her saying it was to come from her portion of the estate. Once Mom had died, she tried to pretend there was a missing document that Mom had signed saying she “forgave” her all that money and she wanted her full share of the estate. Needless to say, the sisterly feelings aren’t so warm right now.
You will have nothing but good memories of being there for your popi.
Post # 4
What! I can’t believe people said anything but “Wow. You are a SERIOUSLY awesome person! I couldn’t have done that. You are a WAY better person than me!”
That’s what I would say, if I heard this story from you in person!
Post # 5
@julies1949: I’m sorry for your situation and thank you for your kind words. I know what you mean, they started stuff like that today too.
“He said that and promised that!” But I guess, thats just how people are, it just doesn’t feel right. And I never thought they could be like that, I think that’s why I’m so mad about it, cause I just can’t understand. My dad told me that they’ve been just like that after nanna passed, gladly I don’t remember cause I was 3.
Post # 6
@BrandNewBride: Thank you so much for you sweet words…I think thats the least I could have done to help my parents, since they have their own health issues and it was and still is so hard on them, 90 is such an awesome age but after living with him his whole life my dad couldn’t talk and do everything on his own and it just hurts that his brother and sister are like that!