(Closed) Sorry God, you’re not invited.

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Of course you can do that! Nothing about bridesmaids, a wedding dress, etc is religious. We had a completely secular ceremony officiated by my mom at a modern art museum. It was wonderful!

Post # 4
46659 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Most definitely! In fact, not having it in a church gives you more leeway in some choices like music etc.

Post # 5
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We’re not having a religious ceremony. We’re being married at our parent’s property by a celebrant who can legally recognise marriages. She works with us to make a ceremony that is personal to us, and we can pretty much do what we like!
We’re doing our own vows and having a few special friends/family members read some nice poems.
She will also talk a bit about us as a couple and how we met 🙂

Post # 6
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

I have attended plenty of weddings lately that were not at all religious in the slightest. There are easy ways to re-word common phrases. If you send me a PM I can email you a sample of what we used, not one word of religion in the whole thing.


Post # 7
1625 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I went to a secular wedding in November.  The officiant still did the whole “how they fell in love” story and someone read a poem about love. The vows they said were secular and I loved how they included something like “I promise to love you, and be your best friend.”

It will be totally fine, just let the officiant know what you do and don’t want included. And give parents/bridal party a heads up so that they are ready for the rehearsal and you don’t get any last minute surprised faces from them lol.

Post # 8
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

It’s absolutely not stupid! If you can find a secular officiant, that should take care of the problem. (There are many out there.) The officiant will usually work with you so that you can decide the content and flow of the ceremony. Also, look into poems, lyrics to love songs, passages from books, or even ask someone you love to write something to read on your behalf. And songs at weddings don’t have to be hymns! I walked down the aisle to Somewhere Over the Rainbow and when we said our vows an instrumental version of Have I Told You Lately was playing. Weddings don’t have to be religious at all. It’s not weird and it can still feel like a wedding!

Post # 9
2981 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

 Not stupid at all! Your way of thinking is actually more common than you think. You can absolutely have a gorgeous, meaningful, heartfelt ceremony w/o uttering so much as an “amen”.

Post # 10
784 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@tashajaysen:  I’m doing the same thing. I’m pretty religious at heart but my FH is anti religion… I specifically asked my officiant to remove any “God” parts, which I am fine with. God will be there in my heart =)

Post # 11
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What in the world would make clothes and a bridal party religious? I’m confused as to why you would think that.

Post # 15
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Im doing the exact same thing and having an outdoor ceremony. My dress is actually a cathedral train and Im having a cathedral veil but never thought about what I was wearing religious. We are not having a religious ceremony but there are some “traditional” aspects of the wedding that we are incorporating. Like jumping the broom and father walking me down the aisle. Im also doing the sand ceremony kit but I wanted to do that because of the song that will be playing during that time. We’re also doing the bouquet and garter toss but my family will never leave me alone about it if I didnt do it. Our officiant is a retired judge.

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