(Closed) Sorry I went MIA for a while there… An update on the insanity that is my life.

posted 7 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Hi there!

I am so sorry you are dealing with this – how stressful! But hopefully I can help with the paperwork thing. When Fiance and I did the paperwork to get me in the system after legally getting married, it took about a half day. The basics is that your new husband has to get you in DEERS, get your military ID, then registered with TriCare, and then update his dependent paperworks.

Here is a link I used that was really helpful at the time:

http://www.allmilitary.com/board/viewtopic.php?id=23481

Hope this helps, and let me know if you have any questions!

Post # 5
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2701 posts
Sugar bee

Okay first: YOU’RE BACK! I missed you!

Secondly: I am so sorry to hear about your health issues. I know what you’re going through (I had cervical cancer a few years ago) if you need someone to talk to, PM me anytime.

Thirdly: I LOVE your small, romantic potluck wedding idea.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I can’t say for certainty since ours was done well after Fiance was established in the Navy, but basically, whenever he’s considered to be “in the military” (i.e. when he gets his ID and into their system as an Active Duty Service Member), you as his spouse would be processed as a dependent at the same time. I am just not sure when exactly he would be considered “in the military”, but I would be really, really surprised if it was AFTER he went to bootcamp.

Edit: My fiance is part of the Spec Ops Command here in SD. If the Marines are similar to the Navy set-up, it can be very different from the usual experience. Besides the regular deployments, they do shorter, short notice trips as well. My fiance found out this Monday that he was going someplace on Wednesday, and he’ll be back tomorrow. Par for the course!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Miss Fish:LOTS of paperwork. Also, switch to Tricare PRIME Immediately after you are enrolled. It is much cheaper for you. It’s an HMO, so you ALWAYS have to go through your primary dr. but in the end it costs you less.

 

You need to file many forms. He needs to change SGLI, and you need to have your marriage certificate brought in to base so you can get your ID. Ask to get it expedited, because until you have the ID, you have no proof of marriage, and so no insurance.

Go to the clinic immediately. Enroll in tricare prime, get a primary doctor, and see that doc immediately.

 

So sorry to hear about the health problems. I hope with the insurance everything will work out for you.

 

Hugs and prayers.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@Miss Fish: First of all…. huuuugs… you’re going through a LOT right now!!

My husband just finished basic, and he was considered to be on Tricare from the moment he swore in again at MEPS right before shipping off on the bus, however I was not.  He enrolled me in DEERS/Tricare while actually IN basic.  I got a letter about 4 weeks after he left, which allowed me to go get my military ID on any military base that gives IDs.  I found a base using this site.  You can’t get a military ID without an authorization letter from a sponsoring command, which in basic is the base he’s training at. 

Your ID is your health insurance, but as PP’s mentioned, make sure to have him enroll you in Prime.  He has to do that in basic.  I got a little card saying that I am on Tricare Prime in the mail right after I got my ID, and I am supposed to show that along with my ID.

Now, I will just let you know that my Prime card *said* it wasn’t actually good/active until September 1st, which was about 2 months after he left.  I *think* I was still on Tricare before that when I got my ID, but it was just Tricare Standard.  You’re automatically on Standard, unless you choose Prime, I believe.  So, your mil ID should allow you to access health care prior to receiving the Prime card, but double check with his recruiter now.  They will be able to tell you more than me.

With the letter to get your ID, there’s a letter about Tricare with a number to call to find out what you need to know!  Good luck dear… keep us posted!!! πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Wow, I think based on the variances in these posts, it can be very different. My ID is totally separate from my insurance – I got my ID immediately upon getting placed in DEERS (meaning, I walked away from the registration desk with it), and DEERS is not the same as TriCare. DEERS basically registers you as a military dependent in general, and TriCare is the healthcare portion specifically.

When I was enrolled in TriCare, the default option was Prime (which you shoud probably go with given your medical history – less choice but SO MUCH CHEAPER) and you had to elect to be in Standard.

We also registered me in everything on April 7th, and my insurance wasn’t effective until 5/1 – I think you have until around the 20th to have your insurance effective the 1st of the following month.

Mine was really not that bad- like I said, about a half day of going to the different offices, and everything was done by the end of the day: DEERS, TriCare, SGLI, POA. However, I am in San Diego, which besides Virginia is the center of the Navy universe, so we were able to do everything in the various administration buildings of the Naval Hospital here.

Post # 11
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1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Miss Fish: I (in a way) understand what youre going through. A few weeks ago I went into the gyno for a routine and my pap came back abnormal. They decided to perform a colposcopy, and luckily it checked out normal, but now I have to have regular paps every 3-4 months. Its REALLY REALLY scary so I totally empathize with you. Ill be thinking about you and hope that you make a complete and full recovery with whatever you and your Dr. decide to do. 

Post # 12
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1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Miss Fish! I’m so sorry to hear about all your health problems. That’s really scary and I really hope you get healthy quickly.

 

I don’t have any earth shattering advice, but I wanted to say that you sound like you’ve got a great plan for the next couple years. I hope everything works out well!

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’m sorry to hear about your health problems. I hope everything turns out alright for you!

As for the military part:

First, you can take the marriage license that your officiant signs directly to the nearest base to be enrolled in DEERS and recieve your ID. No need to even file it first. This way, you don’t have to deal with having is expedited and you don’t have to wait.

After you are enrolled and have your ID, go to the base’s Tricare office and get enrolled. Prime is the best because it’s free, no co-pays and presciptions are dirt cheap. You can elect to go a few different ways though. You have to enroll in Tricare Dental separately, it’s about $12-13 a month.

After that, you guys should visit finance to make sure that they change his status to married.

Beyond that, it’s up to your Darling Husband to file his paperwork. The good thing about getting married before he goes to basic is that wherever they decide to send him after BMT, you will now be covered to go with him for free. πŸ™‚

The whole process with DEERS, IDs and Tricare can be completed in one day. It’s pretty quick once you get past the waiting in line. lol. You shold be able to get a checklist from the base of the things you need to do.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Oh Miss. Fish I’ve missed you! I’m sorry to hear about your health problems, I had surgery to remove an ovarian cyst before, so I can definitely understand how you must be feeling right now.

I’m glad to hear that your wedding plans are progressing though! A New Year’s celebration sounds wonderful <333

I hope everything works out for the best my dear πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@Miss Fish: LOL!  I love your chapters… too funny!!

I am really glad that you found out all that info from the recruiters.  Just be sure to ask for copies of EVERYTHING before he leaves so you have it in case they drop the ball.  Most recruiters are good and organized… and some are not, so it’s best to cover your ass in any case.  Darling Husband and I have copies of everything in one folder, and the originals in another.  It’s just smart to always have a backup.

Just to clarify — you cannot obtain your ID until AFTER he graduates?  Maybe different branches do things differently, but Darling Husband filled out a form for me to take to a base to get my ID while he was training.  That’s because normally, your spouse has to be present for you to obtain your ID.  However, the form allows you to go without him because he’s authorizing that you’re his dependent and entitled to an ID. 

I thought all branches did it this way if you get your ID while he’s in basic, so if a letter shows up about 3-4 weeks after he leaves, don’t be surprised!! πŸ™‚ It’s just important to know because the form is only good for a certain period of time, so if you aren’t expecting it, don’t know what to do, and can’t ask him about it, you may not have enough time to get your ID after all that. 

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