- Miss Fish
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
For whatever reason, my laptop is ridiculous and won’t let me comment on pretty much any forums anymore (but I’m getting a new one next week, hooray!), so I haven’t been on in about a month. In that time, my life went nuts.
If you feel like reading my whole life story, begin reading here:
At my yearly gynocologist visit, I got my first actual exam (when I had gone before, they never bothered since I was young and completely monogamous, but they figured at this age that I probably ought to have one). They located a large mass behind my uterus, and after a transabdominal and a transvaginal ultrasound, they’ve determined that I need to see a specialist. So I’m doing that tomorrow.
Apparently, the mass appears to be cystic, but its location is cause for concern because cysts in the posterior cul-de-sac are generally a symptom of endometriosis. And even if it isn’t, its size is, at best, concerning.
Additionally, Mr. Fish has decided that he is intensely interested in the Marine Corps Special Operations Command (MARSOC), which, from what I understand, generally has extremely sporadic deployments with very little notice. You know, as if the military weren’t unpredictable enough.
I’m currently on my parents’ insurance, but it isn’t “good” by any means. If and when my mass is removed, we will undoubtedly end up paying thousands of dollars in medical bills that insurance didn’t cover. Plus, I have several other medical issues that are pretty costly as well (I’ve forked over about 350 bucks on co-pays and testing this month).
If you don’t feel like reading my whole life story, here is the basic summary:
Due to the impending unpredictability of Mr. Fish’s military career (he goes to bootcamp in January), in conjunction with my ridiculously expensive health problems, we will probably (depending on what my specialist has to say tomorrow) get married on New Year’s Eve in a small ceremony/reception with our closest family and friends (about 50-65 people) at an enclosed pavillion building in a local park. We would have everyone bring a dish, and have a low-key wedding/New Year’s party for a few hundred dollars.
Then, when I graduate and move in with him and we begin our lives like normal married people, we’ll have the larger 250-300 person vow renewal with our entire extended families and friend circles, to celebrate the joining of our lives. If people don’t understand our need to finalize things on paper due to my health and his job, then they can save us the cost of paying for their food.
So, military bees- anyone have any idea how these things work? How much paperwork is there to do when we get married?