- panda in England
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
Hey ladies, sorry but I need a bit of a vent today, I am a bit annoyed… well actually I feel hurt, by some of my closest friends 🙁
Some back-story – My best and oldest friend, we’ll call her C is getting married in July and I’m a Bridesmaid or Best Man (officially I don’t think she has a Maid/Matron of Honor, but if she does I would say it is our mutual friend who we’ll call S). C has been engaged for about 3 years now, and since starting to plan her wedding last summer, my Fiance and I got engaged (at Christmas) and so I’ve also been starting to plan my own wedding.
C has been fairly quiet about her plans; I’m sure she’s excited but she doesn’t get hyperactively excited about things like invitations and paper decorations in the same way I do… I have offered to help her do various things for her wedding and spent a good evening helping with her Invites.
6 of us are all going for a week’s batcherlortte-beach-holiday in June before her wedding in July, which Bridesmaid or Best Man S has organised. I offered to organise a night out in our hometown shortly before the wedding, so everyone who couldn’t come on holiday would have a chance to celebrate with C; but I have yet to sort this out as it’s still 3 months away.
Anyway, this week S has told me that she thinks C is concerned I am concentrating too much on my wedding and not getting organised for hers… I just feel this is a bit unfair since I have asked plenty of times if there’s anything else I can help with, and the only reason I can think she’s worried is because we’re trying to keep most plans a surprise for C so I havent said much about them to her.
About 4 weeks ago I asked S if we should start thinking about the hometown party, and S told me it was TOO EARLY! But now (because I think C said something to her about how I hadn’t mentioned that I was sorting it) she is implying that I’m too wrapped up in my own wedding to bother to think about C’s!
Basically, last night I posted my status on Facebook as “400 days to go, not that I’m counting” because, funnily enough I am excited about my wedding – nothing wrong with that right?
S has commented on the post saying “That might be so but C’s is first so think we should all be concentrating on her for the next 3 months don’t you?!!”. Then last night we bumped into C’s Fiance while on a girls night downtown and he said “just don’t forget it’s our wedding first ok?” which has got me thinking that C has been venting to him and maybe she really DOES think I’m a crappy BM!
Thing is; I’m worried now when I start talking to C about her wedding/plans for the hometown party do she will think I’m only doing it because S and the fiance has said something, and not because I want to do something to make it special for her! 🙁
All I’m really hurt by is that my best friend seemingly can’t tell me when I’m being a crap friend! And that now it feels like its a topic of bitching behind my back.
Am I a crappy bridesmaid?