- 10 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
Does anyone else feel like they may have potentially enjoyed planning their wedding if it weren’t for other people? This is a really long vent post :/
I’m really stressed out about the wedding, and working, and taking classes.. But I think I would’ve been all right with all of them if it was for my sucky bridal party and insane family. I feel like they are all ruining my wedding. It sounds dramatic, but ughhhh everytime I turn about its something else. For example, my grandmother is freaking out about how selfish I am for not inviting distant members of the family.. I was limited by the venue to a “handful” over 100. I’m at 130. I can’t add anymore. I also know when they find out I want two father/daughter dances (I’ve had a stepdad since I was 8), they will flip out over that too.
Oh, and my sister, who is also a Bridesmaid or Best Man, told me right after my engagement that I was too young to be getting married, and should wait, etc. etc. I’m 20 now, was 19 at the time. She is 21. Then, a couple months later, she randomly meets her soulmate and they are getting married too!! I mean, really?? I’m too young to marry my boyfriend of 4 years, but at 21, she has a deep, emotional, and more ready for marriage relationship with her boyfriend of 1 month?! Really?! Oh, and she saw someone else with my engagement ring, because that’s what happens when you go to a big place like Kay Jewelers. She “designed hers at Radcliffe’s.” And By The Way, her unique especially designed ring looks almost exactly like mine, but bigger.
Oh my gosh, and my bridal party as a whole is terrible. I’ve obviously never done this before.. But aren’t they supposed to be helpful? Like even a little bit? Not ignore my FB messages about hair and makeup and shoes? I know the Maid/Matron of Honor is supposed to help. Well, I have two. One is my 15yo sister, who doesn’t even care, but cared enough to demand the Maid/Matron of Honor position. The other is (was?) my best friend who went through a mini war with my mom over who was doing the bridal shower, and also keeps suggesting 18+ bachelorette party ideas so my younger sister can’t come.
I just feel like planning a wedding in general is way stressful. Then I’m also working part-time. Then I go to school full-time. Which is still doable, but then on top of it all every time I turn around its something else. Someone else is mad about something, or complaining about the dress, or I just feel all alone in the decisions because FH doesn’t have much of an opinion (I don’t blame him, he helps where he can) and my BMs just don’t care I guess. I mean, are they supposed to help? Am I being ridiculous in expecting a little help or support? They are all sooooo active on FB but only one, my cousin, who is my only good Bridesmaid or Best Man and would help me with whatever I needed, answered. I was trying to be nice in getting their suggestions on hair and makeup and jewelry and shoes. I guess I’ll just tell them what I want since they apparently have no time in between Farmville and status updates to form an opinion. Yes, I know that last sentence was rather snarky, but this is a vent post lol.
Okay, I’m done. If you read this far, I commend you 🙂