- 6 years ago
Bees, the strangest thing happened!
I got home last night from a weekend trip to a friend’s out of town baby shower, and my boyfriend was super nice, picked me up at the airport, had dinner already started, cooked us a nice dinner of shrimp pasta with fresh basil, tomatoes, wine… it was delicious and great because although he is a good cook since we moved in together he got kinda lazy and I like cooking anyways, so he almost NEVER cooks. We had dinner, were cuddling on the couch, and instead of kissing, he kinda stopped and was rubbing my leg, and got all thoughtful looking and I asked what was up… and he said …
I want to marry you, now! And I kinda straightened up and was like “holy sh*t is this really happening, are you serious?” and he said “Well, I don’t have a ring yet, but I don’t wanna keep waiting… so, boardersarita, will you marry me?” and I said “Yes, I will marry you! Of course!” and we kept cuddling and making out and kinda laughing and smiling about it.
I asked so wait, is this real, are we engaged? And he said “I still wanna do the thing, you know, get you a ring, but I didn’t want to keep making you wait, I don’t like how worried you were, so eh, can we be secret fiancees until I do that so I don’t look like an idiot?” and he told me I can tell anyone I want if I’d like, named two specific best friends of mine, but said he’d prefer if it was mostly quiet till he got a ring and did it again. I said we could go get rings together, and he said no, he still wants to do it alone, and we talked some more, and decided no real wedding planning until we are publically engaged. I told him to hurry up I’m so excited, and he said to wait and see, but can I wait until November or is that too late for wedding planning for next summer, and I said I can wait until November if I haaave to (in a jokey voice).
So, we are ‘sort of?’ engaged! And we walked around all night last night calling each other fiancee, and giggling, and he kept saying things in awe like “you are going to be my wife” and “you know, this is the only family member we ever get to choose” and all kinds of really sweet things! Ah it was amazing, and I was so pumped up it was soooo hard to get to sleep last night. I’m exhausted at work, but walking around with a big smile and butterflies in my stomach.
Not sure if this means I’m off the waiting list, but since it’s sorta private and quiet now, and there’s still a ‘getting on a knee with a ring’ proposal coming (almost certainly on our Hawaii trip in November I’m guessing), maybe I can stay on? I feel like this is really weird and non-traditional, but if we just decided that’s it, it’s public, we’ll get the ring together, then I’d say yes we are engaged, but because he still wants to do ‘the whole thing’ then I feel like that’s the real proposal? Or maybe they are both real, and two different steps? I dunno. I don’t care, I feel so excited and happy and waiting until November is going to be sooooo hard. I’m telling one friend today, and that’s it!