Post # 1
How do you handle people trying to touch your baby? I was just reading another thread about babies being exposed to lots of germs due to people touching and I got a pit in my stomach, especially when it was discussed that everyone would want to kiss and hold the baby! I am weird about touching anyway, and since I work in healthcare I am SUPER germ conscious. I absolutely don’t want strangers touching my baby, friends and family are fine although I’m leery about people touching baby’s hands. The thought of people kissing him though… Oh my. That’s where I about lose it. I do NOT want anyone but family members kissing him, and I even draw the line with certain family members 🙂 One of my family members commented on an ultrasound pic of my baby saying she couldn’t wait to kiss all over him…She’s a heavy smoker, so that totally grosses me out. Which people did you let kiss/hold your baby? What did you do about strangers touching your baby? Do strangers really try to touch babies that often?!
*Yes, I know I’m weird…Please don’t flame me. I have a very large personal space bubble that I’m comfortable with 🙂
*Added a multiple option poll.
Post # 3
And also – how do I need sound like an evil witch when I tell strangers not to touch my baby, and most people not to kiss my baby? In our circle of friends, most people expect to just pass your baby around the entire time we’re hanging out or at church and I’m not really comfortable with that either. Maybe its a first time mom thing.
Post # 4
I voted for family and friends can hold the baby. But i totally know what you mean! Certain people just gross you out. I have an uncle who sort of spits when he talks and always has slobber in the corners of his mouth. umm gross. Same goes for kissing. Close family and friends can kiss my baby.
My sister said when she had a baby – random people she really didnt even know would ask to hold her baby and she just told them the baby was sick all the time. She said even worse is the number of people that come in the hospital room with no intention of washing their hands or using anti bacterial before trying to hold your hour-old baby!
Post # 5
Oh my gosh! I don’t even want anyone coming in our hospital room. You better believe I’ll be the hand washing police 🙂 I have a friend who likes to ‘eat’ babies, i.e., make a mouthing motion on them while making noises and blowing raspberries etc. leaving them all slobbery. It totally grosses me out and I’ll freak if she does it to our baby.
Post # 6
I’ve gotten this little stop sign thing as a gift for a few friends that recently had babies to put on the carseat (with a little travel sized hand sanitizer to attach with it), as a visual reminder to people that they need to have clean hands before touching the baby. It’s at mytinyhands.com (sorry I couldn’t get the picture to show up – but it’s a little plastic stop sign that says ” please wash your hands before touching mine”)
They said that it actually worked and made people a little more aware that they were about to handle a newborn baby.
But I feel the same way, I don’t want a bunch of random people to be touching/kissing my baby. *Hopefully* the cold & flu season ending by the time my little guy is born in March; but if not I can see myself regulating who gets to hold the baby; especially with the flu and whooping cough warnings that have been coming out saying it’s going to be a bad year for both!
Post # 7
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I’m not a mother yet, but I will be super cautious about this becasue (not to scare you, but…) when I was a baby, I almost died because my mom let someone hold me, and that woman gave me bacterial meningitis. The doctor didn’t believe there was anything wrong, but luckily my mom took me to the ER anyway!
Post # 8
You didn’t scare me, you just reinforced the way I feel! My middle sister died at 14 days old of bacterial meningitis that was most likely contracted while she was still in the hospital.
Post # 10
I’m not a mom just yet so I can’t vote. But I just wanted to say I don’t think you’re being unreasonable in your fears of people touching and kissing your baby. Often times when I’m around babies, I really want to hold them but I don’t even ask because I don’t want to make the mom uncomfortable. It’s perfectly fine to be protective of your LO.
Post # 11
Ugh, it doesn’t stop when they’re not babies anymore. Strangers still touch my daughter’s hair (she has fairly unusual hair for our area) like it’s no big deal – my daughter hates it and it makes her so uncomfortable.
When she was a baby, she was always in her car seat next to me or in a sling, so it was pretty easy to control who touched her. I had no problem with family and close friends holding her as long as they weren’t smokers and had washed their hands thoroughly, so that wasn’t an issue, but I just cut people off if she was in her carrier and I saw hands coming near. I also carried around hand sanitizer in case people who I didn’t mind touching her wanted to in passing. I’m sure some people thought I was nuts, but she never got sick.
Post # 12
I’m not a mother yet and quite frankly holding babies makes me nervous so I wouldn’t ever ask someone to hold their baby. If they offered for me to hold them and I was comfortable, that’s fine.
Is it just me or does anyone else find it kind of rude to ask to hold someone’s baby without them offering first? (other than family members/close friends)
Post # 13
We have friends who don’t even ask. They just walk up and make the ‘gimme’ motion with their hands, or will just grab the baby out of his/her carseat. Our baby isn’t even due til JUNE and I’m already worried about how not to be rude but still tell people no a lot of the time!
Post # 14
I like the sling idea 🙂 I’m going to be using a Moby wrap or an ErgoBaby a lot of the time while he is very little, so I’m glad to hear that helped curb things for you!
Post # 15
My SIL doesnt like people touching the baby (especially the baby’s hands – bc the baby’s hands go straight into the baby’s mouth) because of germs…and I totally dont blame her. My SIL just tells people that the baby doesnt like her hands touched.
Post # 16
i don’t think you’re weird at all.
i don’t have kids yet, but i am going to be so over protective of my babies.
i’m going to have hand sanitizer to offer to people who want to hold them and have little mittens on my babies at all times so nobody can touch their hands with their germy fingers.
there are so many people who choose not to have their kids vaccinated, so it makes me very nervous that illnesses like whooping cough are coming back.
my husband has a lot of little kids in his family, so when one of them gets sick, everyone else gets sick too. at christmas time there was a nasty stomach flu being passed around and christmas eve was my husband’s turn :/
my in-laws don’t always do a good job of keeping their home clean, so part of me doesn’t even want to bring a newborn around his family because of all the germs floating around.