- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
So, I’m born and raised Catholic. All through high school, I was very active in the church as was my family. The priest/monsignor at my church know us well. He officiated my quinceñera and I feel he wouldn’t hesitate to do the same with my wedding except…not only is Fiance not Catholic, he’s not Christian. He’s not even athiest. He’s Wiccan, or as I like to say, Wiccan Agnostic. He believes in the main points of the faith, but he hasn’t found a denomination within the religion he can really relate to.
He’s a great guy. He’s kind and loving and supportive. He’s smart and I know he’ll be a great husband and father. It’s just that people tend to freak upon finding out he’s a “Godless heathen”, thinking he sacrifices goats and dances naked under a full moon, but that’s so far from the truth. I would defend his beliefs to the death as he would mine. He’s always been respectful of my faith, even coming to mass with my family on Christmas and Easter. He knows that having a Catholic wedding is important to me and my family and wants to do anything he can to make that a reality. His only request is that he doesn’t have to pray to or swear our love to a god he doesn’t believe in, purely out of respect to my religion. Out of respect to his religion, he really wants an outdoor wedding and a handfasting ceremony.
So, once this semester is over and Fiance has graduated, we plan on making the trip back home to talk to the priest about our options. I’m absolutely terrified that he will refuse because of FI’s religion. So many people judge him and his family on it and I don’t know if I could take it if we were denied something I want so badly because of it.
If anyone has any advice, I could really use it. What should we expect when meeting with the priest? Is an outdoor wedding a possibility and would we even be allowed to do a handfasting? If the Church refuses to marry us, his father is certified to officiate and we could look into a convalidation ceremony afterwards, but I’ve always dreamed of getting married in the church. It would be devastating if such a small part of our relationship caused such a huge problem.