(Closed) SO’s age

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Is your SO?

    older than you

    younger than you

    the same age

  • Post # 32
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    139 posts
    Blushing bee

    This month I turn 24 and he turns 30, so 6 years minus a week and a half. I found it interesting that people were posting their age of independence so he goes; I left home at 15, him at 16. We had both been doing it on our own for a long time when we met at 21 and 27. I think all the crazy things he went through in his 20s prepared him for “adult” life, and made him actually want to settle down. He has become such a responsible, hard-working man and an excellent provider for our little family.

    Before him I dated (and lived with) a guy my own age for 2 years and that ended horribly. I was in my late teens and wanted to start a life together. He said he did too, but what he really wanted to do was party all the time and screw every girl he met. I think it’s something most men need to get out of their system. I’m so happy mine got that out of the way before we met ๐Ÿ˜€

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee

    He’s 2 years older than me. But it isn’t the age gap that makes a difference – I think it’s the age in general. We are early 20s, so it is very early to be settling down. The people around him, his own age, are not getting engaged so it isn’t something he would think of and be familiar with. Even if it happens in a year or two, which is what I expect, we will still be among the first people we know to get married.

    Post # 34
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    He’s 11 and a half years older than me: I’m 21 and he’s 33 in two weeks.  Freaky when you write it down, my Dad was 32 when I was born but I never notice the difference when we’re together.

    I think he wants to settle down sooner rather than later but whilst I’m at uni (until June) he wont propose because he values my education.  So, in answer to the question, university is more of a deciding factor than age.

    Post # 35
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    484 posts
    Helper bee

    SO is 33, I am about to turn 25.

    He is definitely ready for marriage ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 36
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    39 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My Fiance is 4 years older than I am (He’s 30, I’m 26). I definitely think it played a role in his readiness to settle down. We were friends for years before we started dating and I remember him when he was around my current age. He wouldn’t have been ready to marry if we had started dating when we first met.

    Post # 37
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    2195 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We’re both 21. We’re both still in university and we want to have graduated and be financially independent before we get married. He’s said he wants to get married in the next 5 years though ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 38
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    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    He is 2 and a half years older than I am.

    Post # 39
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    246 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    JJ and I are the exact same age.. both 21, going on 22 in March, and we share the same birthday.. I don’t really think age had a factor in when he decided to propose.. I’ve been the type who is older than my years; I have always wanted to settle down, and the “normal teenage/20’s stuff” never appealed to me and still doesn’t. I’m a complete homebody and I love spending time with JJ.  He was pretty much on his own for most of his teenage years, and he’s had plenty of time to go out and do all the things that people do around our age.. We dated for a short time in high school, and after we split up he decided to enjoy a little bit of his independence, but he says that something was always missing, and once we got back together, he couldn’t propose soon enough! haha, but we’ve had a very long engagement and we’ve been through a lot since then, so we’re both definitely ready.. I just think that different life experiences had a lot to do with how it turned out for us..

    Post # 40
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    924 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We are the same age (well, 6 months apart) and at times I had wished he was older only because I was ready to get married a few years ago but I think where we were in life is what held him back (financially, getting a house, etc). I think it’s nice to be the same age, in other aspects, because we share so many similarities and experiences because of it.

    Post # 41
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    296 posts
    Helper bee

    I am 4 years older.  He is also slow to blossom.  At this rate, I will be needing Botox when I get my engagement photos done and we may as well look into adoption overseas because my uterus will start to gather dust before we TTC.  I always tell him that “shop’s closing up soon”.  LOL!  Tongue out

    Post # 42
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    296 posts
    Helper bee

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    @janie-janie: Yes!  I love having a much younger BF because he can keep up with me in bed!  Did I just write that???!!!

    Post # 43
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    1924 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My Fiance is 25, I’m 24.  He’s 1.5 yrs older than me.  I think the fact that we’re young in general made him feel uncomfortable about proposing because of what others would think… but eventually he realized that we were at that place in our relationship and he popped the question ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 44
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    Bee Keeper

    I am 23, Fiance is 33 (22 and 32 at he time of proposal). I’m not sure if age really had anything to do with him being ready. I just don’t think he had met the right person yet.

    Post # 45
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    527 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We are roughly the same age (6 months apart).  He is 21 and I am 20 ๐Ÿ™‚  We both want the same things and are so excited about our future together! 

    Post # 46
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

    his bday is in march mine is in june but we were born the same year. so technically he is older than me by a few months but for the majority of the year we are the same age.

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