(Closed) SO’s age

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Is your SO?

    older than you

    younger than you

    the same age

  • Post # 48
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    651 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    He is 31 and I am 25.  He wants kids but doesn’t want to be an “old dad” read: approaching 40. 

    I want to be married for at least a year before TTC so I have told him…. time is running out. Planning a wedding for 2014 means he will be 34 and then we will wait one year before TTC. So…. not sure what is taking him so long to propose! Hahaha

    Post # 49
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    1089 posts
    Bumble bee

    Well, SO is 35 (I’m 26), and I believe that age is starting to influence our relationship in that it’s encouraging us to move forward! 

    We’ve been together for almost 2.5 years, and earlier in the relationship, SO didn’t really seem ready to settle down.  Recently, something just seemed to click, and he’s making serious attempts to bring us together (we’re currently in an LDR).  His mindset has changed for the better, and he’s thinking about us and our future rather than what he needs to do for himself.  We’ve both realized that life is short and time together is precious.  Essentially, working hard to achieve your goals is pointless if you have no one to share it with.  I don’t want to wait forever to start my life with him either, and I’ve applied to grad school near him so that we can achieve our individual goals as well move forward as a couple. 

    Even though I’m 26, the grad program I’m hoping to get into will take 3-4 years to complete.  So age also plays an important role for me, especially since I want to have 4 kids!

    Right now, I really couldn’t be more proud of him and couldn’t feel more loved by him!  🙂 

    Post # 50
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    6994 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Im 25 he is 26 – while i think age def helps i think alot of what set us on the road to marriage was timing and finding the right person of course.

    Post # 51
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    2441 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    DH is 46.  I’m 45.  He proposed when he was 45 and I was 43 (my birthday hadn’t come yet).  Anyway, DH recently told me he felt too old to be referring to me as his girlfriend.  He feels a man his age should be discussing/introducing his wife.  

    Post # 52
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    429 posts
    Helper bee

    i dont think age is an excuse for proposing, if one is read , hes ready.

    Post # 53
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    10712 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Were about the same age… he’s 26 in January I just turned 26 last week.

    My ex Fiance was 20 and I was 23 when he proposed.

    I don’t think ‘age’ has much to do with proposal though. Maturity level and financial readiness.

    Post # 54
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    1295 posts
    Bumble bee

    My SO is older than me by six years.  He just turned 30 this year and I’m 24.

    Post # 55
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    1295 posts
    Bumble bee

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    @SillyStacey:  My SO is the same way.  Welll I tell hime he better get his butt in gear then.  I want to wait two years after were married to TTC.  It doesn’t help that we want four kids and me all of them by the time I’m 35.  In addition to him wanting them 1.5 years apart.  Yeah I’m gonna need you to step on that!

    Post # 56
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    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    7 years older. I am 25 and he is 32. 

    Post # 57
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    229 posts
    Helper bee

    He is 3 years older… 28 and freaking out about being 30 “soon” 😛 However, I think career status makes a bigger difference than age in our relationship– in terms of “being ready,” that is. I have a job, whereas he’s still finishing grad school. I think sometimes that makes him feel like a kid. 

    Post # 58
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    26 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I am 19 and my fiance is 22

    Post # 59
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    5407 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    SO and I are two weeks apart (: We’re both 20, almost 21. I think that he’s done a lot of growing up just in the past year, it’s like we woke up and all of a sudden he went out and got a job, is getting good grades, and takes his vitamins everyday. Oh and he bought my ring haha, he hasn’t asked me yet though. It definitely took him longer than me to be ready, I think he had to mature a bit.

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