(Closed) SO’s brother engaged. I quit. (VENT)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

But why can’t you get engaged? How does one impact the other?

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Ambergris:  I don’t think it is such a big deal when brothers get married around the same time, maybe sisters-depending on the circumstances.  I read what you posted about the ring. Maybe that will be in soon and then he can propose soon?  I know you wanted 6 months or longer, but we planned our wedding in 4 months.  Just sayin’.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m confused. How does this affect your engagement plans?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

While getting married the same month as a sibling is unfriendly to them/guests, get engaged if you want to!  They may change their minds about the Oct date.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Don’t sweat it. You can still get engaged. You probably will need to change your wedding date, but you can see that as a good thing, it gives your more time to plan your wedding!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would still stick to whatever timeline for engagement you and your SO had, but no reason to rush getting married (based on what I’m reading here), especially if it would cause drama.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Ambergris:  Truthfully, I can see what you mean.  It sucks having 2 brothers get engaged basically the same to their girlfriends; one, because it may appear as one trying to out-do the other (or pressure from the GF), and/or two, because you want to get married within the same month (hopefully not same date!).  I only say this b/c I got this same frustration with my sister when I was first *maybe* going to get engaged before her (years ago/different guy) and even now because there’s a veeeeeeery slim chance I *may* get pregnant before her down the road.  Of course no bad feelings on my end, I “just get it.”

In the end it’s about you and Fiance.  As many bees say, and as I’m sure you see, many people get engaged around the same time, the same color scheme, plan the same time of year/even date, etc……as others.  You and Fiance just do what’s right for you, and be completely happy about it.  Through it all.  You and future SIL could probably be able to vent, cry, laugh, etc. together, and help each other through the experience and planning.  I still bet each wedding will be unique, beautiful and full of fun and laughter. πŸ™‚ xoxo

 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I only half jokingly told SO that he’d better propose before his cousin so we can nab fall 2014 lolz… and that’s two years from now!! All his cousins keep getting married, for that side of his family, there is just no free season for like the next year +, it’s crazy.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i appreciate you not wanting to crowd your FBIL’s engagement but to be honest i would say to heck with it and keep going with the plan and get your own engagement started.

if you keep waiting for everyone else to have their turn then you are going to miss out on living your life!

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Ambergris:  πŸ™‚ Happy, <EARLY> Congratulations!! Can’t wait to read your post about when it happens since now we know it’s coming up! πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

I’m sorry about what happened, and I hope that this doesn’t delay your proposal too much.  πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

sortof bad timing but not the end of the world, i hope you get your proposal soon πŸ™‚

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