Post # 1
i apologize now for all grammatical issues, im typing this out on my phone. my fiance and i were close friends for a year before we started dating, and 6 months after we started dating we got engaged. by the time we marry in november, we will have been together for a few onths over a year, and been friends for 2 and a half years. from day one, both families have been supportive of our weddings, especially our fathers. we are both firstborn children of immigrants, his father being from ecuador and mine nigeria. all of his brothers were in our wedding party, his dad even had us send notarized invitations to his familyin ecuador so they can get visiting visas. now, 3 months and some days change prior to our wedding, his father tells us that the family cannot afford to come. we have had to no completely change the wedding party last minute, scrounging for groomsmen. ultimately, its not even about that, its that this is the oldest son of the families wedding, and now all the suddent they cannot come. we already changed the wedding date from september to november to accomodate for his family to travel from the tri state area to texas, but it looks as if that was to no avail. it just really hurts that his family so actively participated in the wedding, to pretty much last minute pull out. we even often to help them, even though we know his family can afford it, as his dad bout an 07 camaro cash down last year. i just dont understand why theyre abandoning him on one of the most important days of his life, and it really frustrates and upsets us both.
Post # 3
Can you offer to help with the travel costs?
My fiancé and I are paying for his parents to travel from overseas. They cannot afford it on their own. If cost is the reason given, I’d find a way to help.
Post # 4
as stated in the post, we have offered to help them. however, as we are paying for our wedding as well, they want enough funds for 4 adults, 2 teens, and 2 kids to travel via plane, and stay in a 80 dollar a night per room hotel, whereas we can afford to help going via train or bus, and staying somewhere closer to 50 dollars a night. we also offered to pay for a van rental so his family could drive down, my family has made the trip before and its around a 25 hour trip. my fiance and i believe where there is a will, there is a way, and while it may not be the most preferrable of ways to travel, its worth it tol walk your son down the aisle, or to at least see him wed, especially when you have played such a big part from jump.
Post # 5
Congratulations on your engagement!
My family is also not coming – well, they told me up front they couldn’t make it out – even after I offered to pay all the food and lodging. So I did not even go through with my plans because if I’m having a wedding with only immedaite family, then there is no point in following through if they said they cannot come. They just had to cover flights to my state. Each one had an excuse (no money, no vacation, too scared to fly) but I can find an instance that refutes each case! My mother told me I was asking too much of them to witness my wedding (actually she said she doesn’t know what the big deal was and why she had to go anyway). I have flown home 30+ times in the past 13 years and they cannot come to me once for a wedding?
It hurts. I understand. You just have to feel the hurt, accept that’s how it is, and move on for your own sake and happiness.