Post # 1
How much do you take into consideration your partners opinion on things like hair cut and style, nail polish, clothing, shoes, etc. Do they voice their opinion when they don’t like something?
Without getting into it too much, DH made a comment about not liking my nail polish this morning.
Edited to add: What is their reaction when you do something that they don’t like (and they’ve told you about it in the past)?
Post # 3
I’d want to know if what I was wearing looked stupid or whatever. I’d take his opinion into consideration but I wouldn’t submit to his every demand.
Post # 4
@Mrs.Mittens: I literally wear and style myself however I want haha. My FI knows not to say anything if he doesn’t like something (he made a comment on a jacket once) but I usually try and wear things he likes because I want to look good for him!!
Post # 5
@Mrs.Mittens: I love to bring FI clothes shopping with me. He is honest with me when Im trying on clothes and I value his opinion. Nails he doesnt care too much about thats why when he dragged me to the nails salon befor vaca I was thrown off he just knew I would want my nails to look pretty when he proposed!
Post # 6
I want to look good for my husband so I’m not going to go out of my way to choose things he finds unattractive. He hates short hair and I could care less, so why cut it and have him hate it/think it looks ugly? I know his preferences and he knows mine, which we cater to whenever possible.
Post # 7
my husband doesn’t want me to wear clothes that show too much skin. I don’t own those clothes anyway so it doesn’t matter. I do ask him what he thinks when I’m trying on new clothes. I don’t see why I shouldn’t buy clothes we both love.
Post # 8
I take into consideration his preferences but overall it’s what I want and feel comfortable in. He will compliment my nails and stuff I’ll wear… I do know he isn’t a fan of short hair, neither am I, so that’s a road I’ll never go down. 🙂
Post # 9
@Mrs.Mittens: I ask his opinion and then do what I want anyway. He might make one little comment if he doesn’t like it but he wouldn’t tell me to change my outfit or my nail color or dye my hair a different color.
Post # 10
He’s not critical about my appearance at all, but it’s important to me to do what I know he likes. I wouldn’t chop all my hair off without asking him if he truly loved my hair long. If he mentioned he didn’t like a particular outfit, and I really liked it, I wouldn’t wear it on a date night, but I would wear it to go see a movie with my sister.
ETA: He wears his hair/facial hair the way I like and asks me to groom him. I’ve been trimming his beard and mustache for years, so he obviously cares about what I like as well.
Post # 11
For something like a drastic hair change, I’d take his opinion into consideration and likely not do something he was completely against. This is for a couple of reasons.. firstly, he has good taste. He knows what looks good. I generally agree with what he thinks looks good. Secondly, I wouldn’t want to intentionally make myself unattractive to him. Luckily my tastes don’t differ too much… like I don’t want to get a pixie cut any more than he wants me to. I’d love to have blonde hair and he is dead-set against the idea, but in reality I wouldn’t want the upkeep and it would totally wash me out anyway.
If it’s something like nail polish then too bad! He doesn’t love sparkles quite as much as I do… but I will continue wearing my sparkly nail polish 🙂
Clothes… he doesn’t really comment. Really depends on the item and how expensive it was. He isn’t big on flip flops…. but I love them and basically collect them. If I was buying a $400 coat I’d probably consult him first etc. etc.
Post # 12
@Mrs.Mittens: My FI has never told me that I look bad or that he doesn’t like something but he is very quick to compliment me on something he really likes. So I keep that in mind and pull out those stops for date night.
For example, I think he prefers me in heels (he gets all dreamy eyed at me when I am all tall) but I hate wearing them to work so I pretty much only wear them when we are going out.
He knows I prefer a lil scruff on the face so he grows it out when he can but he does have to shave it all off for work when he has to go out in the field.
Post # 13
He really isn’t that picky or opinionated. I do listen to what he has to say though and take that into consideration. Like I know he prefers longer hair (but again, he doesn’t care that much), so I probably wouldn’t chop my hair above my shoulders. That doesn’t mean I’ll keep my hair waist long though.
Post # 14
We are both very laid back and aren’t into fashion or style. I know he doesn’t like extremely short hair but I’ve done that in the past and don’t want that again so it’s not an issue.
He liked my long hair but didn’t put up a fuss when I cut it just above my shoulders. I’m the one that has to live with it.
Post # 15
He has opinions, I have opinions. If something is seriously bugging him about how I’m dressed, then I might change. However, he generally loves how I dress, but would prefer me naked.
Post # 16
A while ago I got my hair chopped off into a pixie cut. I know FI loves short hair on girls, but we was pretty uncertain about it on me. I decided to do it for my own reasons–it had to do with health–but he ended up loving it.