Post # 1
So my SO and I were walking back to his car after a swing dance (we actually met at a swing dance, and then a few months later, he wanted to take lessons so we could get better at it together), and I noticed that all the shops on the street were all wedding related. The street literally went in this order: florist, ballroom, wedding dress shop, bakery, photographer, church….haha.
I made a comment about it, and he said “That reminds me, one of the older ladies at the dance said “Let me guess, you two are recently engaged…” He caught me off guard by saying this, but I just said “Oh, really?” very non-chalantly, and chuckled. He said “no”, of course, because we aren’t. We aren’t even close. But the way he said “no” kind of irked me. It wasn’t just “No, we aren’t.” It was more of a “NO!”, like “Absolutely not! Ewww, girl cooties!” He reminded me of that episode of Friends when Chandler was talking to Monica about pig sex. The fact that he reacted so vehemently kind of upset me, but I didn’t show it. I just said “Oh, that’s probably because most guys are only there because they get dragged their by their fiancees so they’ll dance better for their wedding.” He agreed, but wouldn’t stop talking about it.
We’ve already talked about getting married, so his reaction to her question doesn’t make any sense. I wasn’t even with him when she said that, so why would he even bother telling me about it?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
The same reason we ask them stuff. To Gouge their reaction! girl, you have just been Gouged
Post # 4
I would mention it to him. He might not have meant for it to sound that way.
Better to clarify than to stew about it any longer.
Post # 5
Oh I would’ve pounced him for that! “Why’d you say it like THAT?!” that sucks hon I’m sorry 🙁
Post # 6
I agree with Rush and OMG. I’d say something if it bothered you that much because he may not have meant it the way you heard it.
The same thing happened to me this weekend when Boyfriend or Best Friend was talking about possibly relocating out of state for a job. I told him that we’d be screwed because they don’t pay relocation for GF’s just wives. He knows I want a small destination wedding, so when he threw out off the cuff that we would just have to go to the courthouse real quick it kind of upset me. I asked him if the thought of a wedding was what was keeping him from proposing already and he said no he didn’t mean it like that, he just meant that if it was what we had to do to get us both there then we would do what we had to.
Just talk to him, you’ll feel better.
Post # 7
I agree with the others. Don’t take it too much to heart, chances are he didn’t mean anything bad by it.
Post # 8
@OneOfTheseDaysAlice: URG!!! If I ever even remotely start to understand men and what they mean behind what they say I’ll give you a translation.
But I know when people ask me things randomly I get flustered and a bit “harsh” sounding so I wouldn’t read too much into it.