Post # 1
I’ve been shanghaied by a friend of the family to give her away at her wedding this August. I’m having trouble writing the speech, and am having a severe problem with the structure of the speech, and material to fill it.
The bride-to-be herself can’t think of any anecdotes to contribute (while a lovely person, she’s somewhat ditzy – if background helps, they both met through Mormon connections and are both quite straight laced) and the only surviving members of her family are ones I can’t contact (don’t ask), so I’m trying to fill up the speech with light puns and one-liners.
I realise there are plenty of prepared speeches online but I’m not after ripping a speech off – I want to write my own, as simply stealing one from Google wouldn’t be doing the happy couple justice. I would be really grateful if people could suggest a good speech structure, and any jokes, etc. to insert in the speech and I can take it from there.
I can send a draft of what I’ve done so far, but the paragraph and a half has taken me three days to write, so any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! 🙂
Post # 3
Hi Scarlett Spider,
Advice for a speech structure would be to split it in 3 parts. 1) Start with a opening, so perhaps, ‘I have know xxxx for xxx years and feel so honoured to be congratulating her and xx today on this very special occassion.
2) go on to a bit of history if you know some (do you know any family members you might ask about what she was like when little, what her dreams might have been for a wedding etc etc…
3) Summary and closing – e.g. ‘X and X, we wish you all the best for the future, etc etc etc …..
Hope this helps, if you want I could look over what you have done thus far and maybe I can make some further suggestions. Would be good if you did send it to send a bit more info on your and her backgrounds as friends….
Jeannine de Sousa
PS( if you want to send it, please use my email address: [email protected]
Post # 4
I would agree that a 3 part structure helps to make speeches managable. I think you could fill the middle section with how you know her. It is clear that you are important to her or else she would not have asked you so talk about your relationshhip, possibly mention when you met him and how happy you are that they are married. Share a personal story but a short one (when you knew they would get married, when you and the bride had an adventure, how Darling Husband makes her a better person, etc.). I would avoid jokes that could be misunderstood and end with a sincere closing, possibly offering a blessing if that is appropriate as you mentioned they have religious connections. Kip it short and simple and deliver it with a smile on your face and I am sure you will not disappoint.
At a wedding I attended recently, the best man used an anology to describe the groom and gave an excellent speech. He talked about the groom’s character and related him to an object they shared in their bachelor apartment that he had brought with him. Think about how you could use a prop or an analogy to tie your speech together.