(Closed) SO's uncle deleting me off Facebook 12 days before the wedding?!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 91
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Buzzing bee

Mrstobe26:  and if its ‘just facebook’ why is he so bothered about people adding him back..<br /><br />You’re questioning why he’s so bothered when you’ve got a six page thread dedicated to how pissed you are that this guy, whom you probably don’t even talk to or see on a regular basis, has deleted you off of a social media list?

Post # 92
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1000 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Mrstobe26:  Yes it sounds immature to “test” people that way. But just roll your eyes and get over it.. at the end of the day it’s just Facebook BS. Stop worrying 🙂

Post # 93
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5219 posts
Bee Keeper

Oh God, both of you sound immature. I feel for your poor Fiance, being stuck in the middle of this. 

Post # 94
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1123 posts
Bumble bee

 

Mrstobe26:  I’d be upset too, I know its only Facebook but the fact that he’s gone to the trouble of removing you is odd and hurtful. I wouldn’t say anything to him or Fiance about it though, its his choice. You just rise above it, be civil with him and be the better person xx

Post # 95
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109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Maybe you’re just an annoying facebooker. 

Post # 96
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5954 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

Mrstobe26:  My MOM has deleted me accidentally. Twice.

Post # 97
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Going against the grain a little here, but I probably would be a little miffed if someone I would be seeing often removed me from facebook. It would make me think there was something wrong even if there wasn’t. Social media isn’t like a videogame, most of us tend to know everyone on our friend/follower list personally and so it’s hard not to take it personal. If it’s someone you don’t know well or don’t see often then that’s different but this uncle isn’t either of those things.

I don’t know the full story however, none of us do. Maybe something was said or done that he found offensive. Again I’m going to go against the grain and suggest you talk to him before the big day so it’s not hanging over your head. It’s upset you, whether it should have or not, and if this guy is a groomsman then there could be some difficult moments. If it’s out in the open and turns out to be nothing personal then that would be better. If he’s upset about something then you can attempt to patch it up so the day runs smoothly.

Post # 98
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Why are you monitoring this man’s motives and actions so obsessively? You keep going on about how immature he is and mentioning his age as if you expect people to act a certain way after they hit some magic age. News flash,they don’t change. You are still going to be obsessing about the immaturity of second degree relations at 40 and he is still doing whatever it is he’s doing with his own Facebook page. You don’t know what he’s doing and you don’t know his motives. You’re just gossiping about intentions you’ve ascribed to him. 

Do you have nothing better to do days before your wedding than search for reasons to feel insulted? Let it go.

Post # 99
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Tinatiny1:  +1

OP – ya gotta let it go.  You can’t slam him for being immature and then carry on like this.   Just focus on your wedding.  

Post # 100
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Busy bee

Personally. Since this is a family member, I would ask but wait until after the wedding. If this uncle isn’t interested in having a relationship with your Fi/dh then maybe he shouldn’t have a relationship with this uncle. Sorry but family is a joint thing and your Fi needs to stick up for you. If my family members didn’t want a relationship with your my future Fi/dh then those family members would be off my facebook in a heart beat. 

Post # 101
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Busy bee

Typo. I meant if this uncle isn’t interested in having a relationship with you. Sorry. 

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