- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
So my fiance has two younger siblings that are between 8 and 10. I have lived with the family for a while and the children are horribly behaved. We can’t even take them to the park or the grocery store or even just being in the house without them throwing terrible fits. They scream, shout and throw things and the fits usually happen from both, multiple times a day. I don’t want them at the wedding. I don’t trust them not to misbehave and make a scene, either at the ceremony or the reception. Honestly, I think my fiance would be okay with not inviting them, but his mom, who I actually really like, would be terribly offended. She wants them to have a role in the wedding. The wedding is in two years, and I suppose there is a chance of them maturing, but they’ve been this way for years and I can’t see them changing. Maybe if we spun it so the mom wouldn’t have to worry about the kids, she could just relax and have fun. The other issue is his dad also has two kids, the same age, who are very well behaved and who I would feel bad not inviting, but it would kind of highlight the fact that the FMIL’s kids aren’t really welcome. Am I just being mean and selfish? I feel really bad and maybe I shouldn’t worry so much but I see them throw fits over the most ridiculous things, like not getting icecream or being allowed to stay up til 11 for a tv show or not going swimming because it’s too cold outside. Does anyone have any advice or suggestions?